Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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25 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Theme · When everything feels flat
Medication and how it works 97Systems for daily life 69Getting assessed and diagnosed 54Get started 47Your nervous system 47Moving your body 43Exercise, food and other supports 40Treatment and medication 39Your sense of time 37What anger actually is 37Bringing the future closer 36Touch and bodywork 30What ADHD actually is 28Screens and attention 26Equanimity and perspective 26The moment before you snap 25Growing empathy 25When everything feels flat 25Structure and routine 25Choosing your response 24Food, caffeine and fuel 23Feelings and focus 23What worry does 22Grounding and settling 21Knowing your partner 20The fear underneath anger 20Treatment and medication 20The cost of avoiding 19Breathing 18Being seen and judged 16Shared spiritual life 16Practising under provocation 15Making it stick 15Fondness and admiration 14Breaking the worry loop 14Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Remembering to do it 13Shame and stigma 13What you are actually defending 13Answering bids 12Staying regulated in conflict 11Listening and understanding 10When you use something to cope 10Emotions as signals 10Feeling from the inside 10Reading, numbers and learning differences 10Gratitude 9Affection and touch 7Use your strengths 7Rituals of connection 7When anger turns to harm 6Self-compassion 6Cool the body first 6Obsessions and compulsions 5Rebuilding trust 5Tolerate distress 5Facing it a step at a time 5Anger, alcohol and the body 5Posture and how you carry yourself 4Notice the pattern and flex 3Your worth is not conditional 3Panic and the body 3Question the thought 3Repair after rupture 3Work with your brain 2Meaning after harm 2Act on your values 2Keep the bond 2Rest and pacing 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Safety and grounding 1Shame 1Listen to the body 1Living with uncertainty 1When you go numb 1Care for yourself in loss 1Your window of tolerance 1
Approach
When · Any ordinary day

You can say what an SSRI does in one sentence. It blocks the doorway that carries serotonin back out of the gap between two nerve cells, so more of it stays there for longer and is likelier to be picked up.

Worth being able to say plainly, because most people are carrying something vaguer and more frightening than that. It also sets a fair expectation.…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:24

The blockade is partial. Serotonin is not trapped in there forever: enzymes still break it down and the transporters that are not blocked carry on working.

That matters for accuracy and it matters for reassurance, because people do picture something flooding and stuck. It also explains why serotonin…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:1

Serotonin syndrome comes from stacking, and the second agent is usually something nobody thought to mention: a migraine tablet, a cough medicine, a herbal remedy for low mood.

Triptans, tramadol, dextromethorphan, linezolid and St John's wort all count, as do other antidepressants. Someone who mentions in passing that they…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:87

When someone says they react badly to normal doses of almost everything, take it as information about their body rather than as a personality trait.

Bodies differ in how fast they break a medicine down. Give two people the same dose and one of them may be holding far more of it for far longer,…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:7

Whether a medicine works can turn on something as ordinary as taking it with food or moving it to bedtime.

Vilazodone is the clear case. On an empty stomach a good deal less of it is absorbed, and the nausea it can cause is easier to sit with overnight…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

The same medicine can be dangerous given one way and safe given another. Slow release is not a marketing word.

Bupropion was pulled from the market over seizures and came back once a slow release form existed, because what drove the risk was the sharp peak…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:110

The chemistry story runs backwards from how it is usually told. Nobody found a low chemical and then built a drug. They noticed what certain drugs did to mood and reasoned back to what must have been missing.

Reserpine emptied out the monoamines and people became depressed. Iproniazid and imipramine raised them and mood lifted. Out of that came the account…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Depression is not one thing with one address. Fatigue, blank concentration, lost libido and the loss of pleasure do not all come from the same place, so it helps to name which one you most want moved.

This is why two people with the same diagnosis get offered different tablets. A flat, pleasureless presentation points one way, a fatigued and achey…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

Ask why the tablets take weeks. That one question sorts the honest accounts of how they work from the tidy story about a chemical being low.

Four competing versions sit under the same umbrella: too little released, reuptake running too hard, too much broken down, or receptors that need an…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:50

Nearly all of them do the one thing: keep a monoamine hanging about in the synapse for longer. So when you hear that some other tablet is stronger, be a little sceptical.

Head to head, the differences in how much they lift mood are modest. Where they really differ is in everything else they do to you, and in how well…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:88

SSRIs became the default for four reasons, and being more effective is not among them. They are easier to tolerate, taken once a day, far safer in overdose, and cheap as generics.

Tricyclics match them for lifting mood and are dangerous in overdose because of what they do to the heart. MAOIs carry food and drug interactions…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

The standing side-effect list is sexual difficulty, less appetite, an unsettled stomach, disturbed sleep and headache. Sexual side effects are common, and almost nobody raises them unprompted.

So ask directly, and ask about sleep while you are there. People do not usually announce these things. They quietly stop taking the tablet and say…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:125

One person's side effect is another person's treatment. Sedation is a burden for someone who cannot get out of bed and a gift for someone who cannot get to sleep.

Read the comparison charts that way and they stop being lists of harms. They turn into a set of levers: this one settles, this one gets you moving,…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 93:1

Two rough shapes of low mood are worth telling apart: the irritable, restless, crabby kind, and the flattened, heavy, nothing matters kind.

They ask for different things. The agitated version often tolerates and even welcomes something sedating, while the flattened version needs whatever…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:36

A genetic test can tell you how quickly your body clears a medicine. It cannot tell you whether that medicine will lift your mood, and it helps to keep those two questions apart.

Where these panels earn their place is in dosing and tolerability. Someone who breaks a drug down slowly may need less of it, and someone who clears…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Some newer antidepressants do two jobs in a single tablet: the familiar one of keeping serotonin available, plus a direct nudge at the receiving end.

This is worth knowing because it explains what a person actually feels. A drug with a second action brings a second set of effects, wanted and…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

No option comes without a cost. The useful question is not which medicine has side effects, it is which side effects you could live with.

One drug may unsettle your stomach for a fortnight and leave your sex life alone. Another may be kind to the stomach and flatten desire for as long…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5

A newer version of a familiar medicine is usually a tidier version rather than a leap, and tidier is still worth something.

Desvenlafaxine is venlafaxine after the liver has done its work, given directly. The point of that is fewer differences between people who process…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 93:11

Most antidepressants share a family resemblance. Bupropion does not, so much of what you have read about the others simply does not apply to it.

It works on the systems carrying drive and alertness rather than on serotonin, which is why its effects, wanted and unwanted, sit at an angle to the…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

If you know something about a person's history that the prescriber may not, say it. A past eating disorder or a single seizure can change what is safe to prescribe.

Bupropion lowers the seizure threshold, and in someone who is purging, restricting or very underweight that risk climbs meaningfully. The therapist…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:88

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