Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

24 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Your nervous system
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 31Grounding and settling 30Choosing your response 28Your nervous system 24Touch and bodywork 22What anger actually is 20Staying regulated in conflict 20The fear underneath anger 18Feelings and focus 16Equanimity and perspective 15Tolerate distress 11The cost of avoiding 10Breathing 10Feeling from the inside 9Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Shame 8Practising under provocation 8Medication and how it works 8Moving your body 8Screens and attention 8What worry does 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Bringing the future closer 6Affection and touch 6Making it stick 6When anger turns to harm 6Breaking the worry loop 6When everything feels flat 6Shame and stigma 6What you are actually defending 5Question the thought 5Knowing your partner 5Treatment and medication 5Facing it a step at a time 5Emotions as signals 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Letting it out safely 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Get started 4Growing empathy 4Obsessions and compulsions 4Being seen and judged 3Listening and understanding 3Calm the body 3Let the wave come 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Working with anger 3Name what you feel 3Safety and grounding 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Your sense of time 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Meaning after harm 2Treatment and medication 2When you use something to cope 2Patience and trust 2Structure and routine 2Ride the urge 2Rebuild trust 2Self-compassion 2Shared spiritual life 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Listen to the body 1Panic and the body 1Remembering to do it 1Repair after rupture 1Rest and pacing 1Act on your values 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Your window of tolerance 1
Approach
When · Under stress

The tools that reach what words cannot are physical: feet on the floor, a long breath out, pushing hard against a wall, deliberately walking away from something.

Some of what happened is held below language, which is why the most articulate account of it can leave you unchanged. Movement that finishes…

Five minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 76:2

Wanting sugar, salt and something sharp at the end of a punishing week is physiology talking, not a defect in your character.

Long stretches of high stress come with real bodily consequences, and a shifted appetite is one of the visible ones. Fighting the craving head on…

Five minutesYour nervous systemMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:4

When you cannot settle yourself, borrow somebody else's steadiness. Sitting near a calm person, even without talking, is a real thing to try.

Choose by effect rather than by closeness. Some people you love leave you more wound up than you started, and some people you barely know are easy to…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 2:248

If you mostly run hot and jumpy, start with slow paced breathing. If you mostly go blank and far away, work that reaches you through sound and voice tends to get further.

The idea is to pick the tool that pulls against your usual tilt. Breathing practice puts the brake back on a system that has lost it. Sound and voice…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 23:78

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