Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesTheme · Name what you feel
Staying regulated in conflict 20Choosing your response 17The moment before you snap 14The fear underneath anger 14Cool the body first 12Your nervous system 11Answering bids 9Equanimity and perspective 8Feelings and focus 8What anger actually is 8Touch and bodywork 7Affection and touch 6Knowing your partner 5Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Practising under provocation 4Making it stick 4Facing it a step at a time 4Tolerate distress 4What you are actually defending 4Listening and understanding 3Working with anger 3Let the wave come 3When anger turns to harm 3Calm the body 3Name what you feel 3Safety and grounding 3Patience and trust 2When everything feels flat 2Question the thought 2Rebuild trust 2Grounding and settling 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2The cost of avoiding 2Feeling from the inside 2Emotions as signals 2Meaning after harm 2Repair after rupture 1Breathing 1Bringing the future closer 1Care for yourself in loss 1When you use something to cope 1Food, caffeine and fuel 1Growing empathy 1Listen to the body 1Medication and how it works 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Act on your values 1Shame 1Shame and stigma 1Shared spiritual life 1Validate yourself and others 1What worry does 1Your window of tolerance 1
When a feeling grips you, name it in one plain word: this is anger, this is fear, this is hurt.
Not a story about why. Just the name. Putting the feeling into a word loosens its hold.
Give the feeling a number from zero to ten, and watch the number instead of obeying it.
A rating turns a wave you are inside into something you are measuring from the shore.
Under the anger, name the softer feeling: often it is fear, or hurt, or feeling unseen.
Anger is a bodyguard. Name what it is guarding, and it begins to soften.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.