Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

Shared spiritual life Five minutes Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 6 Five minutes 4 Twenty minutes 7

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 4 Me 4

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 3 On my own 1

Theme · Shared spiritual life

Medication and how it works 63 Getting assessed and diagnosed 41 Your nervous system 37 What anger actually is 36 Systems for daily life 31 Equanimity and perspective 29 Exercise, food and other supports 27 Your sense of time 25 Get started 23 Touch and bodywork 23 What ADHD actually is 22 Bringing the future closer 21 Treatment and medication 20 The moment before you snap 19 When everything feels flat 19 The fear underneath anger 18 Choosing your response 17 Moving your body 17 Feelings and focus 17 What worry does 17 Practising under provocation 17 Screens and attention 16 Grounding and settling 14 What you are actually defending 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 13 Structure and routine 12 Emotions as signals 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 11 Breathing 10 Feeling from the inside 9 The cost of avoiding 9 Being seen and judged 9 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Growing empathy 9 Rebuilding trust 9 Treatment and medication 8 Knowing your partner 8 Making it stick 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Shame and stigma 6 Remembering to do it 6 Cool the body first 6 Tolerate distress 5 Listening and understanding 5 When you use something to cope 5 Self-compassion 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Shared spiritual life 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 Reading, numbers and learning differences 4 Rituals of connection 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Use your strengths 3 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Panic and the body 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 Repair after rupture 2 Meaning after harm 2 Your worth is not conditional 1 Help someone grieving 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1 Affection and touch 1 Rest and pacing 1 Calm the body 1 Ask and say no well 1 Question the thought 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Let the wave come 1 Notice the pattern and flex 1 When you go numb 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Working with anger 1 Shame 1

Approach

Core 2 Gottman 2

Pray for them by name, for something they actually need.

Today, make duʿāʾ for your spouse, not the general one. Something specific they are carrying right now: the work thing, the health thing, the worry…

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Do one small good deed for someone else, together.

Turning outward as a pair, a little charity done side by side, quietly strengthens the two of you.

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 42:38

Before hammering out differences, start from common ground: what do we agree on, and what are our shared goals?

Name the agreement and the shared aim first. Building from what you have in common makes the rest easier.

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 3:64

Nurture a sense of we, not I: name what you share, your beliefs, goals, and the life you are building.

Seeing yourselves as a team, with shared values and aims, is a quiet strength in hard times.

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

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