Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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9 practices
How long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Struggling right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Your sense of time
When

Look back over your own history for the times you were knocked down and started something anyway. That pattern is common with ADHD, and it is easy to miss while you are busy counting the failures.

It may be a side effect of not weighting the future heavily. The past does not press down quite as hard either. People who have been sacked, dropped…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 25:47

Short sight is a fair comparison. If you cannot see far, the ship has to come close before it exists for you, and no amount of trying harder brings it into view sooner.

Which is why glasses are the right idea rather than effort. For time, glasses mean anything that puts the future in front of you before it arrives:…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 21:37

If you keep choosing whatever is in front of you, the reasoning is probably working properly. It is the information going in that is off, because the future arrives faint and the present arrives loud.

This matters for where you spend your effort. Trying harder to decide well, on inputs that are skewed, mostly produces guilt. Changing what you can…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 10:5

Knowing that leaving it until Thursday went badly last month does not change what Monday feels like. The memory is there, but it turns up flat, with none of the pressure still attached to it.

So the same week repeats, and from outside it looks as though nothing was learned. What helps is not remembering harder but putting something into…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 18:23

Some people do not really perceive time passing. It is more like weather, something you are inside of, and then it is suddenly six o'clock.

If that is you, the useful word is perception rather than attitude. Being late is not a statement about what you value, though you have probably been…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:12

Short sleep is often not a sleep problem at all. It is midnight arriving without being noticed, on top of a day whose work got pushed into the evening.

If that is the shape of it, advice about winding down will keep missing. What tends to help is an alarm for going to bed, the same as the one for…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 78:10

Rushing out of the door is the most reliable way to leave something behind. The hurry uses up the very attention that would have checked for the keys.

The answer is not to remember harder, it is to move the check earlier. Pack the bag the night before and leave it by the door, and give yourself a…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 21:37

People rarely stop at you are late. They move on to what sort of person is late, and then it is about respect and reliability rather than about time. You have probably taken that account on board yourself.

Naming the jump out loud helps, at home and at work: this is a difficulty with timing, here is what I am putting in place, and it is not a comment on…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:11

Long stretches of time are where people dissolve. If a whole afternoon is unusable for you, stop trying to use it as an afternoon and cut it into pieces with edges.

Twenty five minutes on, five off, or forty and ten, or whatever suits the work. What you are after is a short enough run that you can tell from…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 84:19

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