Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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3 practicesTheme · Name what you feel
Staying regulated in conflict 46Choosing your response 25Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 18Medication and how it works 18Bringing the future closer 17The moment before you snap 17Fondness and admiration 15Your nervous system 15Knowing your partner 14Affection and touch 14Equanimity and perspective 14What anger actually is 13Repair after rupture 13Systems for daily life 13Get started 13Cool the body first 12Growing empathy 12Your sense of time 12Treatment and medication 11Structure and routine 10Gratitude 9Grounding and settling 9When everything feels flat 8Feelings and focus 8Listening and understanding 8Moving your body 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Making it stick 6Rituals of connection 6Touch and bodywork 6Remembering to do it 6Exercise, food and other supports 6Shared spiritual life 6Screens and attention 5What you are actually defending 5Emotions as signals 5Being seen and judged 5Rebuilding trust 5Treatment and medication 4Shame and stigma 4Practising under provocation 4Breathing 4Tolerate distress 4Food, caffeine and fuel 4Question the thought 3Safety and grounding 3Name what you feel 3Self-compassion 3When you use something to cope 3What worry does 3The cost of avoiding 3What ADHD actually is 3When anger turns to harm 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Let the wave come 2Hold a boundary 2Meaning after harm 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Patience and trust 2Ride the urge 2Facing it a step at a time 2Shame 2Validate yourself and others 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Calm the body 2Panic and the body 1Act on your values 1Your window of tolerance 1Ask and say no well 1Breaking the worry loop 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Keep the bond 1Get it out of your head 1Help someone grieving 1Face it gently 1Listen to the body 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Feeling from the inside 1
When a feeling grips you, name it in one plain word: this is anger, this is fear, this is hurt.
Not a story about why. Just the name. Putting the feeling into a word loosens its hold.
Give the feeling a number from zero to ten, and watch the number instead of obeying it.
A rating turns a wave you are inside into something you are measuring from the shore.
Under the anger, name the softer feeling: often it is fear, or hurt, or feeling unseen.
Anger is a bodyguard. Name what it is guarding, and it begins to soften.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.