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What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.
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4 practicesTheme · Answering bids
Approach · Emotionally focused
When · Any ordinary day
Give your spouse a few minutes of your full, undistracted attention today.
Not half-present behind a screen. Turned toward, eyes up, entirely here for a moment.
When your spouse reaches today, receive it fully instead of deflecting.
Not a joke, not a change of subject. Let the kindness or the bid actually land on you.
Answer one bid for closeness today that you might have let pass.
The come see this, the small touch, the story. Turn toward it, do not scroll past it.
Send your spouse one reaching message in the middle of the day, for no reason.
Thinking of you. A small signal across the hours that says you are on my mind.