Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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8 practices

Treatment and medication A practitioner Both of us together Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 2

Who it is written for · A practitioner

A practitioner 8 Me 6 My husband or wife 4 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 5 Struggling right now 3

On your own, or with someone · Both of us together

On my own 38 Involves someone else 19 Both of us together 8

Theme · Treatment and medication

Getting assessed and diagnosed 41 Medication and how it works 33 Feelings and focus 15 Systems for daily life 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Emotions as signals 11 Touch and bodywork 9 Growing empathy 8 When anger turns to harm 8 Treatment and medication 8 Shame 7 Practising under provocation 7 The cost of avoiding 6 What anger actually is 6 Screens and attention 5 Being seen and judged 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 What ADHD actually is 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 When everything feels flat 3 Cool the body first 3 The fear underneath anger 2 Your sense of time 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 When you go numb 2 Moving your body 2 Grounding and settling 2 Get started 1 Making it stick 1 Your nervous system 1 What you are actually defending 1 Use your strengths 1 The moment before you snap 1 Choosing your response 1 Bringing the future closer 1 Structure and routine 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Remembering to do it 1

Approach

Medical and treatment 7 CBT 1

When

Any ordinary day 6 When apart 1 After a row 1

A lot of what people now know about ADHD came from a video. Some of it is genuinely good, some of it is not, and asking someone what they have been watching is a fair question to open with.

Creators who live with ADHD have done real good here. They have made people feel recognised and made asking for help less frightening, and some…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:7

Long acting does not automatically suit everybody. Some people genuinely do better on shorter doses, and it is worth saying so rather than assuming the newer option must be right.

There is a folk belief that a person's own chemistry takes over in the afternoon once the medicine wears off, and the research does not support it.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

Medication does not make somebody care more. It narrows the distance between meaning to do the thing and doing it, and that distance is exactly what the other person has been feeling as being let down.

It helps a couple enormously to have the right name for what has been happening. The intention was real every single time. What went missing was the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 48:17

Managing the ADHD is not the goal. Being happy together is the goal, and the ADHD work is only worth doing to the extent that it gets you there.

Keeping that order straight changes the atmosphere of the whole effort. A partner who has spent years being a project stops being one. Requests stop…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

Do not write off simply sitting with someone. When researchers looked into why dummy treatments helped, one of the things they kept finding was half an hour of a person's full attention.

Thirty minutes of someone listening properly to your difficulties is not filler around the real treatment. Across the talking therapies, who the…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 3:159

Coaching for adult ADHD comes down mostly to one thing: a standing appointment with somebody who will ask how it went. That sounds thin until you have tried keeping a plan alive entirely on your own.

A coach is not a therapist and does not need to be. They hold the horizon you keep losing and the fortnight that has quietly gone by, and they make…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationCBTQur’an 42:38

Paying someone to help sort the house will not mend the marriage. It will remove one of the things you fight about most weeks, and that counts for more than it sounds.

Nobody should pretend this reaches anything deep. The point is arithmetic. A couple has a certain number of rows in them, and if the living room is…

LongerTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5

People who are sleeping properly, eating properly and moving a bit tend to want each other more. The unglamorous parts of life management run closer to the bedroom than either of you might expect.

It is worth saying out loud when desire has quietly gone from a marriage, because the usual explanations reach for something heavier: he has lost…

LongerTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

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