Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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8 practicesHow long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Your nervous system
Reaching for another person when you are wound up is not a distraction from coping. Contact can turn the alarm down at the source.
This is why a short call, a message to someone who knows you, or sitting in the same room as family is worth doing before you get as far as the…
When someone is frightened, your words may not reach them however sensible they are. Drop your voice, slow right down, and let the tone do the work.
In high alarm, hearing tips towards low rumbling sounds and away from the range the human voice sits in, so reassurance can genuinely fail to land.…
None of this needs explaining to work. A child who cannot say what happened can still be helped by breath, movement and sound.
That makes body based work useful right across the ages, and for anyone who finds talking hard, including people whose language is not the one the…
When someone cannot take in your reassurance while they are frightened, that is the receiver and not their willingness. Wait for the wave to pass and try again.
In high arousal, hearing shifts away from the band the human voice occupies, so kind words can genuinely arrive as noise. It is easy to read that as…
Keep the explanation short when you offer this to someone. It is a way of breathing that gets your heart to send your brain a message to settle. Would you like to try it?
Long technical framings cost more than they buy. They ask a person to take in a great deal before they have felt anything, and the offer of a choice…
A child who does not feel safe cannot filter the room. The pencil scratch, the scraping chair, the fan and the rustle of a coat all arrive at the same volume as the teacher.
So the attention problem is real, and it is not the same thing as not caring or not trying. A quieter corner, a seat away from the noisy fan, a…
A child at the nursery door who charms you, then rages, then crumples is running through the whole repertoire in ninety seconds. Nothing has gone wrong yet.
The sequence is ordinary: try connection first, then protest, then collapse when neither works. What decides how the morning lands is what happens…
You do not have to read your child perfectly. Good enough, with repair after the ruptures, is what builds their steadiness.
Parents who read about how early experience shapes a child's stress system often hear it as a verdict on every time they snapped. That is not what it…
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