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Affection and touch remove filterInvolves someone else remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 12Five minutes 1
Who it is written for
My husband or wife 13Me 13
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Involves someone else 13On my own 2
Theme · Affection and touch
Medication and how it works 61Systems for daily life 37The cost of avoiding 36Screens and attention 26Staying regulated in conflict 24Moving your body 21Treatment and medication 20Knowing your partner 15Exercise, food and other supports 15Rebuilding trust 14What anger actually is 13What ADHD actually is 13Feelings and focus 13Affection and touch 13Listening and understanding 12Breaking the worry loop 11Rituals of connection 11Your nervous system 11Repair after rupture 11Answering bids 11Your sense of time 11Structure and routine 10Getting assessed and diagnosed 10Facing it a step at a time 10Food, caffeine and fuel 10The moment before you snap 10Shared spiritual life 10What worry does 10Grounding and settling 9Bringing the future closer 9When everything feels flat 7Breathing 7Choosing your response 7Cool the body first 7Emotions as signals 7Growing empathy 7Equanimity and perspective 7Get started 7Treatment and medication 7Remembering to do it 6Reading, numbers and learning differences 6When you use something to cope 5Shame and stigma 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Touch and bodywork 4Tolerate distress 4Practising under provocation 3Making it stick 3Being seen and judged 3Panic and the body 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Gratitude 2Fondness and admiration 2The fear underneath anger 2Feeling from the inside 2Ask and say no well 2What you are actually defending 2Rest and pacing 2Shame 2Help someone grieving 2Safety and grounding 1Validate yourself and others 1When you go numb 1Living with uncertainty 1
Approach
Emotionally focused 7Core 4Gottman 2
When
Any ordinary day 6Under stress 5After a row 1Coming and going 1

When your spouse is hurting today, be the place they come to, not one more thing to manage.

Move toward the pain, not away. A hand, a nearness, a steady I am here.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

When your spouse reaches today, respond with tenderness before anything else.

Not advice, not a fix. First a soft word or a warm hand, then the rest.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 3:159

After a hard moment today, hold each other before you move on.

Words can wait. A held embrace after conflict settles the body and the bond.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Give your spouse one embrace today that lasts longer than usual, until you both soften.

A hug held past the polite second. Long enough for the shoulders to drop.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

When your spouse is overwhelmed today, sit close and let your calm steady them.

You do not have to fix it. A steady body beside a flooded one helps it settle.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

Offer your spouse warm touch today with nothing asked in return.

A hand on the shoulder, a passing squeeze. Contact that is only kindness, not a request.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Let your presence be the place your spouse can fall apart safely today.

No performance required with you. Make your nearness the one place they can just be.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Make one greeting or parting linger a few seconds longer than usual today.

A held hug at the door, a real kiss, not the quick automatic one. Let it last.

A minuteAffection and touchGottmanQur’an 30:21

Hold their hand while you talk about something completely ordinary.

Touch with no request attached is a language of safety all its own.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

When they are upset, move physically closer before you say anything.

Nearness often comforts before any words can, and asks nothing in return.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Make them laugh once today, on purpose.

Shared lightness is not frivolous; it is a thread that keeps two people close.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

Kiss, hold, and touch each other daily, at partings, reunions, and before bed. Learn the touch your partner likes.

Affection is not only for special moments. Small, regular touch keeps warmth and closeness alive.

A minuteAffection and touchGottmanQur’an 30:21

Do one small, slightly ridiculous thing together.

A shared bit of play refreshes a couple more than another serious conversation can.

Five minutesAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

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