Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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1888 practices
Area
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme
Your nervous system 105Medication and how it works 82What anger actually is 78The moment before you snap 76Choosing your response 73Get started 65Systems for daily life 62Grounding and settling 59Equanimity and perspective 57The fear underneath anger 56Cool the body first 55Your sense of time 52Touch and bodywork 52Food, caffeine and fuel 49Moving your body 48Bringing the future closer 46What ADHD actually is 42Exercise, food and other supports 41When everything feels flat 39Feelings and focus 37Staying regulated in conflict 36Practising under provocation 36Shame and stigma 30Treatment and medication 29Making it stick 29Getting assessed and diagnosed 28Breathing 28Screens and attention 28Structure and routine 24Tolerate distress 23Feeling from the inside 23Being seen and judged 22What worry does 21What you are actually defending 21Treatment and medication 20Growing empathy 20Remembering to do it 20When you use something to cope 18Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Breaking the worry loop 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 12Emotions as signals 12Self-compassion 12Obsessions and compulsions 12Question the thought 11Knowing your partner 10Shame 10Facing it a step at a time 10Use your strengths 9Posture and how you carry yourself 8Anger, alcohol and the body 8Repair after rupture 8Shared spiritual life 7Gratitude 7When anger turns to harm 5When you go numb 4Letting it out safely 4Meaning after harm 4Living with uncertainty 4Name what you feel 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Your worth is not conditional 3Let the wave come 3Rebuilding trust 3Working with anger 3Rest and pacing 3Act on your values 3Calm the body 3Safety and grounding 3Affection and touch 2Ride the urge 2Rituals of connection 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Listen to the body 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Care for yourself in loss 2Patience and trust 2Listening and understanding 1Validate yourself and others 1Panic and the body 1The cost of avoiding 1
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An hour exists somewhere in the week for almost anything. That is what makes yes so easy, and it is not the same as having an hour.

The question that gets skipped is not whether the time exists but what is already claiming it. Answering that means calling to mind everything you…

A minuteSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 17:29

Practise one sentence until it comes out on its own: let me check and come back to you. It buys the few minutes you need to answer truthfully.

The moment of being asked is the hard part, because the yes is out of your mouth before any checking has happened. Having one phrase ready means you…

A minuteSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 20:114

The cheapest place to deal with a task is before it ever reaches your list. Some things are better declined in the moment they are offered.

Once something is written down it starts costing you. It gets read, moved to next week, copied out again, felt guilty about. Filtering at the door…

A minuteSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 7:31

Before a task you have been circling for days, give five minutes to moving your body. A brisk walk or a couple of flights of stairs is often enough to make starting feel less like pushing at a door that will not open.

Treat the movement as part of the task rather than something virtuous you do separately. The lift is short lived, so it helps most sitting right…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:114

Light movement while you work is not stolen from the work. Rocking a foot, standing up, a slow circuit of the room on a call: for many people the concentration goes up rather than down.

Worth testing instead of assuming. Take one task you always do sitting still and do it moving gently: read on your feet, take the meeting walking,…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeMedical and treatmentQur’an 22:78

Do not leave it to eleven at night to decide whether to close the tab. Set the block in the afternoon, while you are still the version of yourself who wants it set.

A browser extension that shuts certain sites between certain hours, a router on a timer, mobile data off after a set time. Pick one, set it once, and…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeMedical and treatmentQur’an 34:11

If everything came apart the moment school ended, it may be that the structure was never yours. It belonged to the timetable, and the timetable stopped.

School decides when you get up, what happens next and when the work is due, so nobody ever finds out whether the person can build a week from…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 84:19

Decide now what you will do when the technology fails, because it will. The plan can be one line: if the connection drops, I take the laptop to the library and carry on there.

Write the fallback next to the thing it protects. Where else could I work, who do I message to say I will be late, what is the offline version of…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:283

Where there is a choice, take the class that meets at a fixed hour with other people in the room. Watch it whenever you like turns into never watched more often than anyone admits.

A live class hands you three things for nothing: a time, other people present, and someone who notices you are missing. A recorded course strips all…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 5:2

Planning does not really happen in your head. Until the week is written somewhere you actually look, you are guessing, however sincere your intentions are.

One calendar rather than four. Paper or phone matters far less than whether you will open it, so choose the one that appears in front of you without…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 68:1

Writing the list is the easy half. If twelve things are down on paper and you still cannot move, the missing skill is choosing, not capturing.

Decide with a question rather than by feel: what actually happens if this is not done by Friday. Anything with a real consequence goes to the top,…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:47

Urgent means the clock is pushing. Important means it matters to the life you are trying to have. In the moment the two feel identical, and they are not.

Take your list and put one letter beside each thing. U if something real goes wrong today when it slips, I if it moves you towards something you care…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 25:67

The good place to be is where things matter but nothing is on fire yet. Booking the check-up, planning next term, getting the haircut before it becomes a situation.

None of it feels like an achievement, which is exactly why it gets no credit and keeps slipping. Try counting it as work: the dentist, the form, an…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:47

There is a corner of the week that is neither urgent nor important, and it is where avoiding lives. The real cost is rarely the lost hours. It is what you end up saying to yourself afterwards.

Learn the difference between resting and avoiding, because from outside they look identical and they feel nothing alike. Rest leaves you lighter.…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 7:31

Instead of guessing what pulls you away, catch it happening. Keep a scrap of paper beside you for a week and note whatever took you off, at the moment it takes you off.

Two words is plenty: phone, hungry, that noise, the thought about Saturday. The writing itself breaks the drift, so some of the benefit arrives…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 10:61

Sort the work into hardest, middling and easiest, then choose the order on purpose. Easy first for momentum or hard first while you are sharp, both are fine. What is not fine is letting the most interesting thing win by default.

Write the three piles on paper and then pick. If you tend to run out of steam by three in the afternoon, the hard thing belongs in the morning. If…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 34:11

Work, friends, games and news all happen on the same rectangle, so nothing in your surroundings tells you which one you are in. Software has to do the job the room used to do.

A blocker that shuts the usual sites during your working hours, a tracker that shows you afterwards where the time actually went, or a small app that…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 50:17

Keep both tools, and settle in advance where each thing goes. The deciding is what wears you out, so make that decision once instead of forty times a week.

The rule can be a single line inside the front cover: if it has a time, calendar; if it has a deadline but no time, list. Then writing things down…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:55

Some things can only be done between nine and five, and those are the ones that quietly fail. Ring the bank, chase the appointment, sort the form: give those a time before anything else.

The failure is silent. You mean to do it all day, the office closes, and it rolls to tomorrow where the same thing happens again. Go through your…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:189

Before you try to prioritise better, check whether there is any order in there at all. Plenty of people who feel stuck cannot say which of their jobs is genuinely required and which is merely wanted.

You can test it in a couple of minutes. Write the things down and mark the ones that carry a real consequence if they do not happen this week. If you…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 65:3

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