Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Shared spiritual life Me On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 5 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for · Me

Me 7 My husband or wife 7

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Involves someone else 10 On my own 7

Theme · Shared spiritual life

Your nervous system 105Medication and how it works 82 What anger actually is 78 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 59 Equanimity and perspective 57 The fear underneath anger 56 Cool the body first 55 Touch and bodywork 52 Your sense of time 52 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 What ADHD actually is 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 When everything feels flat 39 Feelings and focus 37 Practising under provocation 36 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Shame and stigma 30 Treatment and medication 29 Making it stick 29 Screens and attention 28 Breathing 28 Getting assessed and diagnosed 28 Structure and routine 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What worry does 21 What you are actually defending 21 Growing empathy 20 Remembering to do it 20 Treatment and medication 20 When you use something to cope 18 Answering bids 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Obsessions and compulsions 12 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 Knowing your partner 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Repair after rupture 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Gratitude 7 Shared spiritual life 7 When anger turns to harm 5 Letting it out safely 4 When you go numb 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Meaning after harm 4 Your worth is not conditional 3 Name what you feel 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Let the wave come 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Rest and pacing 3 Safety and grounding 3 Act on your values 3 Working with anger 3 Calm the body 3 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Rituals of connection 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Find meaning 2 Get it out of your head 2 Face it gently 2 Affection and touch 2 Hold a boundary 2 Keep the bond 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Listen to the body 2 Validate yourself and others 1 Listening and understanding 1 Panic and the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1

Approach

Gottman 4 Core 2 Emotionally focused 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2

In one decision this week, ask what is best for us, not only what is best for me.

The small choices reveal the we. Let one lean toward the partnership over the self.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

Keep the smallest thing you said you would do for your spouse today.

The call, the errand, the small promise. Trust is built from tiny kept words.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 23:8

Speak about the future today as we, not I, in one thing you mention to your spouse.

When we are older, the home we are making. Language that assumes a shared road ahead.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.

To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Pray for them by name, for something they actually need.

Today, make duʿāʾ for your spouse, not the general one. Something specific they are carrying right now: the work thing, the health thing, the worry…

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Take one concrete action this week toward a goal your spouse cares about.

Watch the kids so they can study. Make the call they dread. Move their dream one inch.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 5:2

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