Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Shared spiritual life On my own Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 5 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

Me 7 My husband or wife 7

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Involves someone else 9 On my own 7

Theme · Shared spiritual life

Your nervous system 81 Medication and how it works 69 Get started 61 Systems for daily life 52 What anger actually is 50 Your sense of time 48 Food, caffeine and fuel 43 The moment before you snap 42 Choosing your response 41 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Moving your body 37 What ADHD actually is 35 Treatment and medication 34 Equanimity and perspective 33 Bringing the future closer 33 Grounding and settling 31 The fear underneath anger 30 When everything feels flat 29 Screens and attention 28 Touch and bodywork 27 Structure and routine 25 Getting assessed and diagnosed 25 Practising under provocation 24 Shame and stigma 22 Feelings and focus 22 Making it stick 20 Cool the body first 19 What worry does 19 Treatment and medication 19 Being seen and judged 18 Breathing 17 Growing empathy 17 Remembering to do it 17 Feeling from the inside 15 When you use something to cope 15 What you are actually defending 13 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Fondness and admiration 12 Tolerate distress 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Answering bids 10 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Knowing your partner 8 Self-compassion 8 Use your strengths 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Gratitude 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Emotions as signals 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame 4 When anger turns to harm 3 When you go numb 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Work with your brain 2 Repair after rupture 2 Rest and pacing 2 Meaning after harm 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Affection and touch 1 Listen to the body 1 Listening and understanding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Panic and the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Rebuilding trust 1 Your window of tolerance 1

Approach

Gottman 4 Core 2 Emotionally focused 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2

In one decision this week, ask what is best for us, not only what is best for me.

The small choices reveal the we. Let one lean toward the partnership over the self.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

Keep the smallest thing you said you would do for your spouse today.

The call, the errand, the small promise. Trust is built from tiny kept words.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 23:8

Speak about the future today as we, not I, in one thing you mention to your spouse.

When we are older, the home we are making. Language that assumes a shared road ahead.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.

To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Pray for them by name, for something they actually need.

Today, make duʿāʾ for your spouse, not the general one. Something specific they are carrying right now: the work thing, the health thing, the worry…

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Take one concrete action this week toward a goal your spouse cares about.

Watch the kids so they can study. Make the call they dread. Move their dream one inch.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 5:2

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