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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices
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How long you have
A minute 5Five minutes 1Twenty minutes 1
Who it is written for
Me 7My husband or wife 7
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Involves someone else 10On my own 7
Theme · Shared spiritual life
Medication and how it works 52Your nervous system 52What anger actually is 45Choosing your response 41Get started 41The moment before you snap 39Systems for daily life 39The fear underneath anger 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Equanimity and perspective 36Your sense of time 31Bringing the future closer 30Moving your body 30Touch and bodywork 30Treatment and medication 27Getting assessed and diagnosed 26When everything feels flat 26Exercise, food and other supports 26Feelings and focus 25Grounding and settling 22What ADHD actually is 21Food, caffeine and fuel 19Practising under provocation 19Cool the body first 18Making it stick 18Structure and routine 18Screens and attention 17What you are actually defending 17What worry does 17Treatment and medication 16Growing empathy 15Breathing 15Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Being seen and judged 12Feeling from the inside 12Shame and stigma 12Righteous anger and perfectionism 12Remembering to do it 11Knowing your partner 10Self-compassion 8Tolerate distress 8Emotions as signals 8Repair after rupture 8Shared spiritual life 7Use your strengths 7When you use something to cope 7Breaking the worry loop 7Gratitude 7Anger, alcohol and the body 6Facing it a step at a time 6When anger turns to harm 5Question the thought 5Meaning after harm 4Notice the pattern and flex 3Act on your values 3Safety and grounding 3Your worth is not conditional 3Working with anger 3Rebuilding trust 3Posture and how you carry yourself 3Let the wave come 3Calm the body 3Name what you feel 3Affection and touch 2Keep the bond 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Listen to the body 2Get it out of your head 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Patience and trust 2Rest and pacing 2Ride the urge 2Rituals of connection 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Care for yourself in loss 2Hold a boundary 2Living with uncertainty 1The cost of avoiding 1Panic and the body 1When you go numb 1Listening and understanding 1Validate yourself and others 1
Approach
Gottman 4Core 2Emotionally focused 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2

In one decision this week, ask what is best for us, not only what is best for me.

The small choices reveal the we. Let one lean toward the partnership over the self.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

Keep the smallest thing you said you would do for your spouse today.

The call, the errand, the small promise. Trust is built from tiny kept words.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 23:8

Speak about the future today as we, not I, in one thing you mention to your spouse.

When we are older, the home we are making. Language that assumes a shared road ahead.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.

To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Pray for them by name, for something they actually need.

Today, make duʿāʾ for your spouse, not the general one. Something specific they are carrying right now: the work thing, the health thing, the worry…

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Take one concrete action this week toward a goal your spouse cares about.

Watch the kids so they can study. Make the call they dread. Move their dream one inch.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 5:2

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