Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices

Gratitude On my own Clear all

Who it is written for

Me 7 My husband or wife 7

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 7 Involves someone else 2

Theme · Gratitude

Your nervous system 108What anger actually is 83 Medication and how it works 83 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 60 Equanimity and perspective 57 The fear underneath anger 57 Cool the body first 55 Touch and bodywork 52 Your sense of time 52 What ADHD actually is 49 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Exercise, food and other supports 44 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 43 Getting assessed and diagnosed 42 Feelings and focus 38 Practising under provocation 36 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Screens and attention 31 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 29 Breathing 28 Structure and routine 25 Treatment and medication 24 What worry does 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What you are actually defending 21 Remembering to do it 20 Growing empathy 20 When you use something to cope 19 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Breaking the worry loop 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Answering bids 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Emotions as signals 12 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 11 Shame 10 Knowing your partner 10 Use your strengths 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Repair after rupture 8 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Gratitude 7 When anger turns to harm 7 Shared spiritual life 7 Meaning after harm 4 When you go numb 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Letting it out safely 4 Safety and grounding 3 Rest and pacing 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Act on your values 3 Calm the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Working with anger 3 Panic and the body 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Get it out of your head 2 Keep the bond 2 Find meaning 2 Listen to the body 2 Rituals of connection 2 Face it gently 2 Ride the urge 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Patience and trust 2 Hold a boundary 2 Affection and touch 2 Listening and understanding 1 Validate yourself and others 1

Approach

Core 4 Gottman 3

Give your spouse one genuine compliment today, specific enough that it could only be them.

Not nice shirt. The way you handled that call was so calm. Precise praise lands deepest.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 55:60

When resentment rises today, name one thing you are grateful to your spouse for instead.

The mind can rehearse grievances or blessings. Choose the blessing, out loud if you can.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 14:7

Thank them for one specific thing, today.

Not "thanks for everything." Pick one thing from the last two days and name it exactly: "Thank you for taking the bins out when I was on that call. I…

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Thank them for something they do so routinely you had stopped noticing it.

The unremarked, dependable acts are exactly the ones that most deserve to be seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Say not just that you appreciated what they did, but what it saved you.

Naming the burden they spared you turns a thank-you into being truly seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Send them a message today naming one thing you are grateful for, with no occasion.

Unprompted gratitude, arriving in the middle of an ordinary day, lands especially softly.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Build a habit of mind that scans your partner and your day for what to appreciate, not what to criticize.

What you look for grows. Train your eye toward their good and the relationship warms.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 16:18

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