Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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9 practices

Gratitude Clear all

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 9 Me 9

On your own, or with someone

On my own 7 Involves someone else 2

Theme · Gratitude

Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 74 Moving your body 71 Grounding and settling 71 Treatment and medication 71 Equanimity and perspective 68 Feelings and focus 66 Your sense of time 66 What ADHD actually is 65 Cool the body first 65 Touch and bodywork 65 Staying regulated in conflict 65 Screens and attention 62 The fear underneath anger 61 Exercise, food and other supports 61 Bringing the future closer 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 When everything feels flat 54 Practising under provocation 46 The cost of avoiding 44 Structure and routine 36 Growing empathy 36 Shame and stigma 35 Breathing 35 Reading, numbers and learning differences 34 What worry does 34 Making it stick 33 Treatment and medication 31 Emotions as signals 30 Being seen and judged 30 Remembering to do it 27 Tolerate distress 27 Feeling from the inside 25 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Breaking the worry loop 24 Facing it a step at a time 24 What you are actually defending 24 When you use something to cope 24 Repair after rupture 19 Shame 19 Obsessions and compulsions 18 Righteous anger and perfectionism 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 When anger turns to harm 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 Listening and understanding 13 Rituals of connection 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 When you go numb 7 Rest and pacing 5 Living with uncertainty 5 Panic and the body 5 Safety and grounding 4 Meaning after harm 4 Letting it out safely 4 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Act on your values 3 Calm the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Let the wave come 3 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Listen to the body 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Ask and say no well 2

Approach

Core 5 Gottman 4

Give your spouse one genuine compliment today, specific enough that it could only be them.

Not nice shirt. The way you handled that call was so calm. Precise praise lands deepest.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 55:60

When resentment rises today, name one thing you are grateful to your spouse for instead.

The mind can rehearse grievances or blessings. Choose the blessing, out loud if you can.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 14:7

Thank them for one specific thing, today.

Not "thanks for everything." Pick one thing from the last two days and name it exactly: "Thank you for taking the bins out when I was on that call. I…

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Thank them for something they do so routinely you had stopped noticing it.

The unremarked, dependable acts are exactly the ones that most deserve to be seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Say not just that you appreciated what they did, but what it saved you.

Naming the burden they spared you turns a thank-you into being truly seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Praise a quality of their character, not only something they did.

To be admired for who you are, not just what you produced, is a rare and steadying gift.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 68:4

Send them a message today naming one thing you are grateful for, with no occasion.

Unprompted gratitude, arriving in the middle of an ordinary day, lands especially softly.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Catch your partner doing something right, and thank them for it, specifically, on the spot.

Notice the small good things and say thanks. Appreciation given often keeps goodwill flowing.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 2:152

Build a habit of mind that scans your partner and your day for what to appreciate, not what to criticize.

What you look for grows. Train your eye toward their good and the relationship warms.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 16:18

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