Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Shared spiritual life On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 5 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 7 Me 7

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Involves someone else 10 On my own 7

Theme · Shared spiritual life

Your nervous system 108What anger actually is 83 Medication and how it works 83 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 60 The fear underneath anger 57 Equanimity and perspective 57 Cool the body first 55 Your sense of time 52 Touch and bodywork 52 What ADHD actually is 49 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 When everything feels flat 44 Exercise, food and other supports 44 Treatment and medication 43 Getting assessed and diagnosed 42 Feelings and focus 38 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Practising under provocation 36 Screens and attention 31 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 29 Breathing 28 Structure and routine 25 What worry does 24 Treatment and medication 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What you are actually defending 21 Remembering to do it 20 Growing empathy 20 When you use something to cope 19 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Breaking the worry loop 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Answering bids 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 11 Knowing your partner 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Repair after rupture 8 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Shared spiritual life 7 When anger turns to harm 7 Gratitude 7 When you go numb 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Meaning after harm 4 Letting it out safely 4 Name what you feel 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Rest and pacing 3 Safety and grounding 3 Let the wave come 3 Act on your values 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Calm the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Work with your brain 2 Get it out of your head 2 Patience and trust 2 Hold a boundary 2 Face it gently 2 Affection and touch 2 Keep the bond 2 Listen to the body 2 Rituals of connection 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Panic and the body 2 Ride the urge 2 Find meaning 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Listening and understanding 1 Validate yourself and others 1

Approach

Gottman 4 Core 2 Emotionally focused 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2

In one decision this week, ask what is best for us, not only what is best for me.

The small choices reveal the we. Let one lean toward the partnership over the self.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

Keep the smallest thing you said you would do for your spouse today.

The call, the errand, the small promise. Trust is built from tiny kept words.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 23:8

Speak about the future today as we, not I, in one thing you mention to your spouse.

When we are older, the home we are making. Language that assumes a shared road ahead.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.

To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Pray for them by name, for something they actually need.

Today, make duʿāʾ for your spouse, not the general one. Something specific they are carrying right now: the work thing, the health thing, the worry…

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Take one concrete action this week toward a goal your spouse cares about.

Watch the kids so they can study. Make the call they dread. Move their dream one inch.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 5:2

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