Practices

Do not plan to resist the phone. Put it in another room before you sit down, close the tabs, silence the chat app. Resisting works sometimes, and it costs you something every single time.

The five minutes before you start are worth more than any amount of determination once you are underway. Decide what is coming into the room with you…

Your ability to hold off a distraction is at its worst near the end of a work block, not at the start. Set the room up for the tired version of you, because that is the one who will be sitting in it.

In practice the hard removals happen in advance, while you still feel capable. Phone away before you begin, water and food already to hand, the next…

The towel left on the floor is the model. Tomorrow it is cold and unpleasant to use, and that is the whole of it. Short wait, happens every time, nothing terrible.

When you are building a consequence yourself, aim for those qualities rather than for severity. Something that lands within a day or two. Something…

A long project gives you no feedback until it is too late to use any. Put checkpoints in yourself: with the people involved, or just with you and a Monday morning.

Pick the dates while you are writing the plan, not later when you happen to remember. Each one turns a single verdict at the end into several small…

Decide now what you will do when the technology fails, because it will. The plan can be one line: if the connection drops, I take the laptop to the library and carry on there.

Write the fallback next to the thing it protects. Where else could I work, who do I message to say I will be late, what is the offline version of…

Where there is a choice, take the class that meets at a fixed hour with other people in the room. Watch it whenever you like turns into never watched more often than anyone admits.

A live class hands you three things for nothing: a time, other people present, and someone who notices you are missing. A recorded course strips all…

Do not walk into a hard event and improvise. Ten minutes beforehand, work out what is likely to happen, what you will do about it, and how you get out if you need to.

If someone is coming with you, make it a shared plan. What the signal is when one of you needs air, who says what to whom, when you leave. The point…

Working towards something you want will carry you further than working away from something you dread. Before you start, name in your own words what the finished thing gets you.

Fear only switches on when the threat is close, which is exactly how you end up doing a week's work at midnight. It also floods the job with anxiety…

The age by which symptoms have to have shown up is a number people agreed on, not a line in nature. It moved from seven to twelve when the manual was revised.

That matters if you are an adult wondering whether you would even qualify. The old cut-off was itself a compromise between studies pointing in…

Teenage memories of this often come with a sting: the year you worked out how much longer everything took you than it seemed to take everybody else.

That is usually why adolescence is the period people can describe in detail. The work got harder, the scaffolding of primary school fell away, and…

You do not need clinical language at an assessment. Some of the wording in the manual came straight from how families described it in the first place.

Phrases about being permanently on the go are in there because people kept saying them. So use yours: that your head is like a browser with forty…

Before handing anyone a new system, make sure they can say back why it should work better than what they are doing now. A strategy with no reason attached gets dropped the first time it is inconvenient.

Ask them to explain it to you in their own words and listen for whose reason it is. If the logic is only yours, it will hold for about a week. It is…

Strategies for ADHD are visible. A timer on the table, a list on the wall, an alarm going off in a meeting. If someone has not yet made peace with having ADHD, each of those is an announcement, and it will quietly get dropped.

So ask, before handing over another tool: how do you feel about the diagnosis itself? Sometimes the honest answer is that they still half hope it was…

Ask what they think this will cost them in effort, then say what you think. People rarely give up because a strategy failed. They give up because it turned out to be harder than anyone had told them.

Be specific about the first fortnight, since that is when it is worst and the payoff has not arrived yet. Someone who expected a small effort and met…

Not every reminder is the same kind of reminder. Call at three is a clock job, when I next see my manager is a person job, and that thing at the conference next year is a diary job.

Mixing them up is where a lot of honest intentions leak away. A note on the desk will not survive until next March, and an alarm cannot tell you your…

Some things can be done a day late with an apology, and others cannot: the ticket doubles, the window shuts, the form is simply gone. Sorting your obligations into those two piles tells you where the effort is worth spending.

Lateness tends to get treated as one big failing, which makes every missed thing feel equally awful and gives you nowhere to aim. Go through what is…

A sticky note is fine for something happening within the hour. Anything further out needs something that goes off by itself, because holding a plan in mind for three days is not a thing memory does.

Most reminder failures are this mismatch rather than a lack of trying. Someone uses a note where an alarm was needed, it fails, and they conclude…

Somebody should ask the boring question: is there a list at all, anywhere? It gets skipped for being too obvious to ask, which is how a person can go years with nothing.

The format does not matter: Outlook, a notes app, the back of an envelope kept in one place. What matters is that intentions live somewhere outside…

The inner clock does more than one job. It tells you what time it is now, how long that took, how long things usually take, and it taps you on the shoulder when a particular time arrives.

Worth finding out which of those is weak for you, because they need different props. Someone who estimates badly needs a record of past attempts to…

A list on the back of an envelope, made before the day starts, beats holding the day in your head. It does not have to be neat and it does not have to survive contact with the morning.

Write what has to happen and roughly in what order, and keep it where you will see it. Two things come out of that. You have made one deliberate…