Practices

When they share good news, ask a question about it.

The next time your spouse tells you something good, do not just say "that's great." Ask about it. How did it happen? What did you say? How did it…

Do the small thing you said you would do.

Think of the smallest thing you told your spouse you would do and have not done. The call, the form, the shelf. Do it today, not because it matters,…

Answer the small bid; the passing comment about the weather is really a reach for you.

Turning toward these tiny moments, again and again, is what quietly builds a bond.

Let them tell the good story twice.

Sharing a joy and being met with delight makes the joy larger and the bond warmer.

Ask which kind of support they want today rather than deciding for them.

Sometimes it is help, sometimes only company; asking spares you both the wrong gift.

Do the smallest thing you said you would do and have not.

Small kept words are the quiet floor a marriage stands on.

Before you respond, say back what you heard them mean.

Being understood, even before being agreed with, settles almost everything.