Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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28 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Treatment and medication
Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85Systems for daily life 80Get started 68Food, caffeine and fuel 53Your sense of time 52The moment before you snap 49Moving your body 48What anger actually is 48Bringing the future closer 45Choosing your response 45Exercise, food and other supports 41Equanimity and perspective 36Screens and attention 35Grounding and settling 33What ADHD actually is 33Touch and bodywork 31The fear underneath anger 31Practising under provocation 30Getting assessed and diagnosed 30Feelings and focus 28Treatment and medication 28Growing empathy 28When everything feels flat 27Structure and routine 27Being seen and judged 24Breathing 23Cool the body first 23Shame and stigma 22Making it stick 21Knowing your partner 20Remembering to do it 20Treatment and medication 18When you use something to cope 17What worry does 17Shared spiritual life 16Breaking the worry loop 15Feeling from the inside 15Fondness and admiration 14What you are actually defending 13Facing it a step at a time 13Answering bids 12Tolerate distress 11Staying regulated in conflict 11Obsessions and compulsions 10Listening and understanding 10Righteous anger and perfectionism 10Posture and how you carry yourself 9Gratitude 9Self-compassion 8Use your strengths 8Emotions as signals 8Affection and touch 7Rituals of connection 7Anger, alcohol and the body 6Question the thought 6Shame 5Rebuilding trust 5The cost of avoiding 3Notice the pattern and flex 3When you go numb 3Your worth is not conditional 3Rest and pacing 3Repair after rupture 3Living with uncertainty 3Work with your brain 2Get it out of your head 2Act on your values 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Meaning after harm 2Keep the bond 2When anger turns to harm 2Panic and the body 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Your window of tolerance 1Care for yourself in loss 1Safety and grounding 1Listen to the body 1
Approach
When · Any ordinary day

ADHD is managed rather than cured, across a whole life. Anything advertising a cure is telling you it is not working from the evidence.

Managed sounds like a disappointment until you look at what it means in practice: treatment that fits your life now, adjusted when the life changes,…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:286

If mindfulness is going to help with ADHD, the version with a chance is small and spread out. A few seconds of noticing, several times a day, rather than one long sitting you come to dread.

A forty five minute block asks you to get settled in one place and then somehow carry that into the afternoon, and the carrying is exactly what tends…

A minuteTreatment and medicationCBTQur’an 22:78

By response rate, extended release stimulants are among the most effective medicines in psychiatry, and most people tolerate them well. That is worth hearing plainly, particularly from people who are not generally keen on medication.

What the long acting form buys you is coverage. A dose that has faded by four in the afternoon leaves the evening bare, and the evening is where home…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Better usually means smaller, rarer, or shorter. Pick something you can count, like losing your keys twice a week instead of every day.

Vague goals cannot be reviewed, so a few months later nobody can say whether anything changed and you are left going on mood alone. Choose two or…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

You are going to look things up anyway, so start somewhere with proper review behind it. CHADD and Understood both have professionals checking what goes on the page.

Telling anyone to stop searching online has never worked and only means they search without saying so. Better to hand over two or three places worth…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:43

Brain training and therapeutic games raise one question above all others. Does the improvement show up anywhere except inside the game, and does it last once you stop playing?

People do get better at what they practise, and the scores go up, which makes for a persuasive chart on a website. The harder question is whether…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:11

Supplements are not checked before they go on sale, so what is in the bottle may not match the label. Look for a third party mark such as USP or NSF before you buy.

This is not about whether a given supplement helps. It is about the plainer question of whether you are getting the dose written on the front, since…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:195

CBT has more research behind it than most other therapies, and part of that is because it is easy to count. Its steps and its outcomes can be scored, so it gets studied more often.

That is worth saying because a thin research base is not the same as a therapy that fails. Approaches that work through relationship, imagery or the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 39:9

Two things happening together is not one causing the other. Learn that once and you have a reply to most of the claims you will meet.

Children with ADHD may use more screens, and screens may not be the reason. The same shape turns up with sugar, with additives, with organic food and…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:36

Long acting does not automatically suit everybody. Some people genuinely do better on shorter doses, and it is worth saying so rather than assuming the newer option must be right.

There is a folk belief that a person's own chemistry takes over in the afternoon once the medicine wears off, and the research does not support it.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

The point of treatment is not a tidier score on a questionnaire. It is fewer accidents, a finished course, work that holds, relationships that survive, a longer and better life.

Symptoms are worth reducing because of what they do downstream, and that is where the goal should be set. It changes what you review, too. Instead of…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

Being told ADHD is largely inherited can sound like being told nothing can be done. It does not follow, and the two questions are separate ones.

How much of something a person shows, day to day, moves a good deal with what is around them, even when the underlying trait is strongly heritable.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 12:87

People who use several kinds of help tend to report more benefit than people relying on one. Medication, therapy, coaching, reading, sleep and movement all seem to add something rather than compete.

That turns a hard conversation into an easier one. Instead of pressing a reluctant partner towards the single thing they least want, you can offer a…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Managing the ADHD is not the goal. Being happy together is the goal, and the ADHD work is only worth doing to the extent that it gets you there.

Keeping that order straight changes the atmosphere of the whole effort. A partner who has spent years being a project stops being one. Requests stop…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

Two ideas will let you judge most claims for yourself. In a good trial nobody involved knows who got the real treatment, and a study of five people can be swung by one of them having a good month.

Researchers want their treatment to work, and that hope leaks into how they rate what they see, which is why the person handing out the pill and the…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:36

Programmes built on crossing the midline or on balance and inner ear work do not appear to beat ordinary exercise. If movement is what you are after, movement is available free.

These packages come with a theory about why they work, and the theory is usually where the confidence comes from rather than from the results. What…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 22:78

Massage may well leave you calmer, and calmer is worth having. It is not a treatment for ADHD, and the two are worth keeping in separate boxes.

Living with ADHD is stressful in a measurable way, so anything that genuinely lowers that load is doing real good and deserves a place. The error is…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:28

A ramp does nothing for someone's legs, and it gets them into the building. Timers, visible clocks, a shorter task list and a calendar somebody else keeps do the same job here.

Accommodations are not treatment and they are not pretending to be. What they do is take the parts of the work that live inside a person's head,…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

Coaching for adult ADHD comes down mostly to one thing: a standing appointment with somebody who will ask how it went. That sounds thin until you have tried keeping a plan alive entirely on your own.

A coach is not a therapist and does not need to be. They hold the horizon you keep losing and the fortnight that has quietly gone by, and they make…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationCBTQur’an 42:38

Mindfulness for adult ADHD is promising and thinly researched at the same time. If it helps you, that is worth having. It is simply not yet in the same bracket as medication or practical therapy.

There are only a handful of studies, mostly small, and few of them set mindfulness against another active treatment rather than against not much.…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationCBTQur’an 17:36

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