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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have · A minute
A minute 6Five minutes 3Twenty minutes 4
Who it is written for · Me
My husband or wife 6Me 6
On your own, or with someone
Involves someone else 4On my own 2
Theme · Rituals of connection
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 33What anger actually is 25Grounding and settling 24Your nervous system 24Medication and how it works 23Systems for daily life 22Answering bids 22Bringing the future closer 22The fear underneath anger 21Get started 20Equanimity and perspective 17Fondness and admiration 15Your sense of time 15Practising under provocation 14Affection and touch 14Treatment and medication 14Knowing your partner 14Making it stick 13Growing empathy 13Repair after rupture 13Touch and bodywork 12Feelings and focus 12Structure and routine 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Gratitude 9Breathing 9Exercise, food and other supports 8Being seen and judged 8Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Moving your body 7What ADHD actually is 7Tolerate distress 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Remembering to do it 7Rituals of connection 6Shared spiritual life 6What you are actually defending 6What worry does 6Treatment and medication 6Shame and stigma 5Rebuilding trust 5Screens and attention 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Feeling from the inside 4Question the thought 4Self-compassion 4Name what you feel 3Emotions as signals 3Safety and grounding 3Let the wave come 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Patience and trust 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Shame 2Meaning after harm 2Validate yourself and others 2Hold a boundary 2Working with anger 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Facing it a step at a time 2When you use something to cope 2Calm the body 2The cost of avoiding 2Help someone grieving 1Rest and pacing 1Get it out of your head 1Panic and the body 1Ask and say no well 1Face it gently 1Keep the bond 1Letting it out safely 1When you go numb 1Listen to the body 1Your window of tolerance 1Act on your values 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1
Approach
Core 3Gottman 3
When
Coming and going 5Any ordinary day 1

Before you leave today, find your spouse and say goodbye properly, face to face.

Not a shout from the door. A real parting, a word about when you will be back.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

When you come home today, find your spouse before anything else, and give a full minute.

Before the post, the phone, the fridge. Them first, with your eyes and attention.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

Do not let leaving or arriving happen silently.

Today, mark both thresholds. Before you leave, find your spouse and say goodbye properly, face to face. When you come back, find them before you do…

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19

When you come home, find them first, before the post, the phone, the kitchen.

The first half-minute of reunion often sets the tone for the whole evening.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 30:21

Say plainly when you are here and for how long, so they never have to guess.

Naming your presence is a small gift that removes the guesswork of whether you are reachable.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 17:34

Before you part in the morning, take two minutes to learn one thing happening in your partner's day.

A short chat and a warm goodbye at parting keeps you connected through the hours apart.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 4:86

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