Practices

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Affection and touch Me Clear all

How long you have

A minute 14 Five minutes 1

Who it is written for · Me

My husband or wife 15 Me 15

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 13 On my own 2

Theme · Affection and touch

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Feelings and focus 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Bringing the future closer 58 Your sense of time 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Exercise, food and other supports 46 Practising under provocation 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Breathing 34 Growing empathy 34 Shame and stigma 30 Being seen and judged 30 Making it stick 30 Structure and routine 28 Remembering to do it 26 Tolerate distress 26 Knowing your partner 25 Treatment and medication 25 What worry does 25 Answering bids 24 Breaking the worry loop 23 What you are actually defending 23 Feeling from the inside 23 When you use something to cope 22 Emotions as signals 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Rituals of connection 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Listening and understanding 13 Shame 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 Living with uncertainty 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Rest and pacing 5 When you go numb 5 Letting it out safely 4 Safety and grounding 4 Meaning after harm 4 Act on your values 3 Panic and the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Let the wave come 3 Calm the body 3 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Listen to the body 2 Ride the urge 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Get it out of your head 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Ask and say no well 2 Help someone grieving 2 Find meaning 2 Patience and trust 2 Work with your brain 2

Approach

Emotionally focused 8 Core 5 Gottman 2

When

Any ordinary day 7 Under stress 6 Coming and going 1 After a row 1

When your spouse is hurting today, be the place they come to, not one more thing to manage.

Move toward the pain, not away. A hand, a nearness, a steady I am here.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

When fear or hurt makes you want to hide today, reach for your spouse instead.

The instinct is to withdraw. Do the opposite: move toward, take a hand, let them in.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

When your spouse reaches today, respond with tenderness before anything else.

Not advice, not a fix. First a soft word or a warm hand, then the rest.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 3:159

After a hard moment today, hold each other before you move on.

Words can wait. A held embrace after conflict settles the body and the bond.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Give your spouse one embrace today that lasts longer than usual, until you both soften.

A hug held past the polite second. Long enough for the shoulders to drop.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

When your spouse is overwhelmed today, sit close and let your calm steady them.

You do not have to fix it. A steady body beside a flooded one helps it settle.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

Offer your spouse warm touch today with nothing asked in return.

A hand on the shoulder, a passing squeeze. Contact that is only kindness, not a request.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Let your presence be the place your spouse can fall apart safely today.

No performance required with you. Make your nearness the one place they can just be.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Make one greeting or parting linger a few seconds longer than usual today.

A held hug at the door, a real kiss, not the quick automatic one. Let it last.

A minuteAffection and touchGottmanQur’an 30:21

Touch them once today with nothing else attached.

A hand on the shoulder as you pass. Sitting close on the sofa. Reaching for their hand while you talk about nothing. No agenda, no next step. Just…

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Hold their hand while you talk about something completely ordinary.

Touch with no request attached is a language of safety all its own.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

When they are upset, move physically closer before you say anything.

Nearness often comforts before any words can, and asks nothing in return.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Make them laugh once today, on purpose.

Shared lightness is not frivolous; it is a thread that keeps two people close.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

Kiss, hold, and touch each other daily, at partings, reunions, and before bed. Learn the touch your partner likes.

Affection is not only for special moments. Small, regular touch keeps warmth and closeness alive.

A minuteAffection and touchGottmanQur’an 30:21

Do one small, slightly ridiculous thing together.

A shared bit of play refreshes a couple more than another serious conversation can.

Five minutesAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

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