Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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42 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Treatment and medication
Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Get started 73Grounding and settling 67Equanimity and perspective 66Moving your body 63Cool the body first 61Staying regulated in conflict 60Food, caffeine and fuel 59Feelings and focus 58Your sense of time 58Bringing the future closer 58The fear underneath anger 58Touch and bodywork 56Getting assessed and diagnosed 50What ADHD actually is 48Practising under provocation 46Exercise, food and other supports 46When everything feels flat 44Treatment and medication 42Screens and attention 40Breathing 34Growing empathy 34Shame and stigma 30Being seen and judged 30Making it stick 30Structure and routine 28Remembering to do it 26Tolerate distress 26What worry does 25Treatment and medication 25Knowing your partner 25Answering bids 24Feeling from the inside 23What you are actually defending 23Breaking the worry loop 23Emotions as signals 22When you use something to cope 22Repair after rupture 19Facing it a step at a time 18Shared spiritual life 17Rebuilding trust 17Affection and touch 15Fondness and admiration 15Obsessions and compulsions 14Rituals of connection 13Shame 13Posture and how you carry yourself 13Listening and understanding 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Use your strengths 10Gratitude 9Anger, alcohol and the body 8The cost of avoiding 7Living with uncertainty 5When you go numb 5When anger turns to harm 5Rest and pacing 5Meaning after harm 4Safety and grounding 4Letting it out safely 4Act on your values 3Panic and the body 3Calm the body 3Name what you feel 3Your worth is not conditional 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Working with anger 3Let the wave come 3Care for yourself in loss 2Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Validate yourself and others 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Listen to the body 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Help someone grieving 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Ask and say no well 2
Approach
When

If someone selling you a treatment for ADHD uses the word cure, that is your cue to leave. There is no cure. What good treatment offers is fewer symptoms, and that is a real and worthwhile thing.

A registered clinician is not allowed to promise you an outcome, because nobody can honestly guarantee one. So a provider who promises makes you a…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Somebody will eventually ask you whether you want what is best for your child. It is a sales line, and knowing that in advance is most of what you need to withstand it.

Parents of a newly diagnosed child are frightened, motivated and often exhausted, which is exactly the state that gets marketed to. The question is…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 49:6

ADHD is managed rather than cured, across a whole life. Anything advertising a cure is telling you it is not working from the evidence.

Managed sounds like a disappointment until you look at what it means in practice: treatment that fits your life now, adjusted when the life changes,…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:286

Listen for the sentence that says the child could manage all of this perfectly well if they only decided to. However kindly it is meant, that is the belief to take apart.

It sounds like encouragement and it works like a verdict, because it says the ability was always there and only the willingness was missing. In a…

A minuteTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 49:6

If mindfulness is going to help with ADHD, the version with a chance is small and spread out. A few seconds of noticing, several times a day, rather than one long sitting you come to dread.

A forty five minute block asks you to get settled in one place and then somehow carry that into the afternoon, and the carrying is exactly what tends…

A minuteTreatment and medicationCBTQur’an 22:78

By response rate, extended release stimulants are among the most effective medicines in psychiatry, and most people tolerate them well. That is worth hearing plainly, particularly from people who are not generally keen on medication.

What the long acting form buys you is coverage. A dose that has faded by four in the afternoon leaves the evening bare, and the evening is where home…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Three things are worth noticing before you buy any treatment: whether the only research on it is their own, whether they will say plainly what it is meant to change, and whether you have to sign something.

Each one covers a different way of being caught out. Research a company funded and ran itself has never been checked by anyone with nothing to lose.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:29

Decide at the start what you are actually aiming at. Eight difficulties down to six, then to four, then perhaps to two. Never zero, because zero was never on offer.

Everybody has some of these traits, and ADHD is largely inherited, so a life with none of it was never a realistic target for anyone. Naming a number…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5

Better usually means smaller, rarer, or shorter. Pick something you can count, like losing your keys twice a week instead of every day.

Vague goals cannot be reviewed, so a few months later nobody can say whether anything changed and you are left going on mood alone. Choose two or…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

Hear this before you start rather than after: change here is gradual. Habits built over twenty years do not come apart in three weeks.

Waiting is genuinely harder with ADHD, and a treatment whose reward is months away is exactly the sort of thing that gets dropped in week five.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:114

You are going to look things up anyway, so start somewhere with proper review behind it. CHADD and Understood both have professionals checking what goes on the page.

Telling anyone to stop searching online has never worked and only means they search without saying so. Better to hand over two or three places worth…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:43

Part of why so many adults are coming forward now is that well known people have said out loud that they have this. Seeing someone capable say it makes the asking cost less.

The old picture of ADHD was a careless child and a lazy adult, and that picture kept a great many people from ever mentioning it. An athlete at the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 24:61

Brain training and therapeutic games raise one question above all others. Does the improvement show up anywhere except inside the game, and does it last once you stop playing?

People do get better at what they practise, and the scores go up, which makes for a persuasive chart on a website. The harder question is whether…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:11

Supplements are not checked before they go on sale, so what is in the bottle may not match the label. Look for a third party mark such as USP or NSF before you buy.

This is not about whether a given supplement helps. It is about the plainer question of whether you are getting the dose written on the front, since…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:195

CBT has more research behind it than most other therapies, and part of that is because it is easy to count. Its steps and its outcomes can be scored, so it gets studied more often.

That is worth saying because a thin research base is not the same as a therapy that fails. Approaches that work through relationship, imagery or the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 39:9

Two things happening together is not one causing the other. Learn that once and you have a reply to most of the claims you will meet.

Children with ADHD may use more screens, and screens may not be the reason. The same shape turns up with sugar, with additives, with organic food and…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:36

Everything has side effects, including doing nothing. The only real question is whether what you gain outweighs what it costs you.

The conversation about medication often gets set up as a risky drug against a safe natural alternative, and that is not the choice anyone is actually…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Long acting does not automatically suit everybody. Some people genuinely do better on shorter doses, and it is worth saying so rather than assuming the newer option must be right.

There is a folk belief that a person's own chemistry takes over in the afternoon once the medicine wears off, and the research does not support it.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

The point of treatment is not a tidier score on a questionnaire. It is fewer accidents, a finished course, work that holds, relationships that survive, a longer and better life.

Symptoms are worth reducing because of what they do downstream, and that is where the goal should be set. It changes what you review, too. Instead of…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

Being told ADHD is largely inherited can sound like being told nothing can be done. It does not follow, and the two questions are separate ones.

How much of something a person shows, day to day, moves a good deal with what is around them, even when the underlying trait is strongly heritable.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 12:87

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