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Rituals of connection remove filterA minute remove filterComing and going remove filterClear all
Who it is written for
My husband or wife 5Me 5
On your own, or with someone
Involves someone else 3On my own 2
Theme · Rituals of connection
Rituals of connection 5Grounding and settling 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 2Hold a boundary 2Shame 1Ask and say no well 1The cost of avoiding 1Being seen and judged 1Choosing your response 1Equanimity and perspective 1Help someone grieving 1Practising under provocation 1Rest and pacing 1Affection and touch 1Treatment and medication 1
Approach
Gottman 3Core 2
When · Coming and going
Coming and going 5Any ordinary day 1

Before you leave today, find your spouse and say goodbye properly, face to face.

Not a shout from the door. A real parting, a word about when you will be back.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

When you come home today, find your spouse before anything else, and give a full minute.

Before the post, the phone, the fridge. Them first, with your eyes and attention.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

Do not let leaving or arriving happen silently.

Today, mark both thresholds. Before you leave, find your spouse and say goodbye properly, face to face. When you come back, find them before you do…

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19

When you come home, find them first, before the post, the phone, the kitchen.

The first half-minute of reunion often sets the tone for the whole evening.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 30:21

Before you part in the morning, take two minutes to learn one thing happening in your partner's day.

A short chat and a warm goodbye at parting keeps you connected through the hours apart.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 4:86

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