Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Growing empathy Five minutes Struggling right now Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 1 Five minutes 5 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 5 Me 5 Someone I care about 3 My husband or wife 1

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Coping, mostly 9 Struggling right now 5

On your own, or with someone

On my own 3 Both of us together 1 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Growing empathy

Your nervous system 27 What anger actually is 20 Grounding and settling 16 Touch and bodywork 15 Screens and attention 14 Medication and how it works 12 Getting assessed and diagnosed 12 When everything feels flat 12 Shame and stigma 12 The moment before you snap 12 Get started 11 Equanimity and perspective 11 Feelings and focus 9 Your sense of time 9 The fear underneath anger 9 Cool the body first 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Obsessions and compulsions 8 Choosing your response 7 Systems for daily life 7 Emotions as signals 7 Feeling from the inside 7 Breathing 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 When you use something to cope 6 Shame 6 What worry does 6 The cost of avoiding 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Growing empathy 5 Remembering to do it 5 Treatment and medication 5 When you go numb 5 Reading, numbers and learning differences 5 When anger turns to harm 4 Moving your body 4 Question the thought 4 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Treatment and medication 3 Tolerate distress 3 Structure and routine 3 Practising under provocation 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Being seen and judged 3 Facing it a step at a time 2 Self-compassion 2 Bringing the future closer 2 Making it stick 2 What you are actually defending 1 Letting it out safely 1 Rest and pacing 1 Living with uncertainty 1

Approach

CBT 2 Medical and treatment 2 Body based 1

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 2 After a row 1

If you have gone numb around other people's pain, the numbness almost certainly started as protection. It kept you upright at a time when feeling all of it would have flattened you.

The trouble is that it does not switch itself off when the danger passes. You find yourself unmoved in front of someone you love, and then you blame…

Five minutesGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 6:54

Time alone can be a good idea or a dangerous one, and the difference is what sits underneath it. If you are already low, already dodging people, or drinking on your own, a plan to see fewer people is the wrong plan.

Ask honestly which one this is. Stepping back from a crowded, quarrelsome week is one thing. Disappearing because you cannot face anybody is another,…

Five minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 93:10

The thing worth admitting is not that you were angry. It is what you were frightened of underneath it: being made a fool of, being left, being counted as useless.

Anger is the easy half to say and it rarely lands well. The fear underneath is harder to say and it is the part that gets you heard. One sentence…

Five minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:24

If you keep saying yes and then feeling furious about it, the problem may not be that you care too much. Often it is that you cannot bear anyone being displeased with you.

The two look identical from outside and they need completely different answers. Genuine feeling for someone is warm and tiring. Fear of disapproval…

Five minutesGrowing empathyCBTQur’an 76:9

Underneath both versions sits the same small dread: somebody being displeased with you. That is the thing to practise surviving, and it does get easier.

Start where it is cheap. Send back the wrong order. Say you would rather not, once, to a person who will be mildly annoyed and nothing worse. Sit…

Five minutesGrowing empathyCBTQur’an 7:156

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