Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Theme · Remembering to do it
Staying regulated in conflict 46Choosing your response 25Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 18Medication and how it works 18Bringing the future closer 17The moment before you snap 17Your nervous system 15Fondness and admiration 15Affection and touch 14Equanimity and perspective 14Knowing your partner 14Get started 13Repair after rupture 13What anger actually is 13Systems for daily life 13Cool the body first 12Growing empathy 12Your sense of time 12Treatment and medication 11Structure and routine 10Grounding and settling 9Gratitude 9Feelings and focus 8Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Moving your body 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Rituals of connection 6Making it stick 6Exercise, food and other supports 6Remembering to do it 6Shared spiritual life 6Touch and bodywork 6Rebuilding trust 5Emotions as signals 5Screens and attention 5Being seen and judged 5What you are actually defending 5Food, caffeine and fuel 4Tolerate distress 4Treatment and medication 4Breathing 4Practising under provocation 4Shame and stigma 4When you use something to cope 3Safety and grounding 3What ADHD actually is 3Self-compassion 3Name what you feel 3What worry does 3The cost of avoiding 3Question the thought 3Notice the pattern and flex 2Patience and trust 2Let the wave come 2Ride the urge 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Shame 2Hold a boundary 2When anger turns to harm 2Validate yourself and others 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Facing it a step at a time 2Calm the body 2Meaning after harm 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Feeling from the inside 1Panic and the body 1Face it gently 1Keep the bond 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Act on your values 1Care for yourself in loss 1Listen to the body 1Get it out of your head 1Help someone grieving 1Your window of tolerance 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Breaking the worry loop 1Ask and say no well 1

Most of what we call memory looks backwards. The kind that actually runs your week is the other sort: a plan that has to show up in your head at the one moment you could still act on it.

So when something gets missed, the question is not really whether you knew about it. You almost certainly did, at the time you agreed to it. What…

A minuteRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 59:18

A thought you have in the car about something to say at home is worth nothing until the person is actually there in front of you. Cues have to sit where the action becomes possible, not where you happened to think of it.

Picture where you will be at the moment the thing can be done, and put the reminder there: a note on the front door for something that happens on the…

A minuteRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 62:9

The moment you think of it is the only moment you are certain to have it. Do the thing, or write it down, or set the alarm, or put something odd in your pocket that will make no sense later until you check.

The two seconds of holding it in mind while you finish what you are doing is usually where it disappears. So make capture the reflex instead of the…

A minuteRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

Start the email and then stop: address it, write the subject line, leave it unsent. The half finished thing sits in your drafts looking wrong until you deal with it.

It works because it leaves an odd looking object in a place you already go, and because unfinished jobs nag in a way that quiet decisions do not.…

A minuteRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 87:9

The bag that has to travel with you tomorrow goes on top of your shoes, not neatly beside the desk. Let the object stand in the way of a route you walk without thinking.

The phrase worth keeping is point of performance: the reminder has to sit where the action happens, at the time it has to happen. A note on the…

A minuteRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 62:9

Sometimes you cannot write it down. You are driving, your hands are full, you are halfway through a conversation. Then picture the moment in detail instead: the room you will be standing in, the object you will be looking at when you do it.

Make the picture concrete rather than worthy. Not a solemn 'I must ring the surgery' but the desk you will be sitting at, the mug beside the phone,…

A minuteRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 59:18

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.