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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have · A minute
A minute 6Five minutes 3Twenty minutes 4
Who it is written for
My husband or wife 6Me 6
On your own, or with someone
Involves someone else 4On my own 2
Theme · Rituals of connection
Staying regulated in conflict 46Choosing your response 25Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 18Medication and how it works 18Bringing the future closer 17The moment before you snap 17Fondness and admiration 15Your nervous system 15Affection and touch 14Equanimity and perspective 14Knowing your partner 14Get started 13Repair after rupture 13What anger actually is 13Systems for daily life 13Cool the body first 12Growing empathy 12Your sense of time 12Treatment and medication 11Structure and routine 10Grounding and settling 9Gratitude 9Feelings and focus 8Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Moving your body 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Rituals of connection 6Making it stick 6Exercise, food and other supports 6Remembering to do it 6Shared spiritual life 6Touch and bodywork 6Rebuilding trust 5Emotions as signals 5Screens and attention 5Being seen and judged 5What you are actually defending 5Food, caffeine and fuel 4Tolerate distress 4Treatment and medication 4Breathing 4Practising under provocation 4Shame and stigma 4When you use something to cope 3Safety and grounding 3What ADHD actually is 3Self-compassion 3Name what you feel 3What worry does 3The cost of avoiding 3Question the thought 3Notice the pattern and flex 2Patience and trust 2Let the wave come 2Ride the urge 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Shame 2Hold a boundary 2When anger turns to harm 2Validate yourself and others 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Facing it a step at a time 2Calm the body 2Meaning after harm 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Feeling from the inside 1Panic and the body 1Face it gently 1Keep the bond 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Act on your values 1Care for yourself in loss 1Listen to the body 1Get it out of your head 1Help someone grieving 1Your window of tolerance 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Breaking the worry loop 1Ask and say no well 1
Approach
Core 3Gottman 3
When
Coming and going 5Any ordinary day 1

Before you leave today, find your spouse and say goodbye properly, face to face.

Not a shout from the door. A real parting, a word about when you will be back.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

When you come home today, find your spouse before anything else, and give a full minute.

Before the post, the phone, the fridge. Them first, with your eyes and attention.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

Do not let leaving or arriving happen silently.

Today, mark both thresholds. Before you leave, find your spouse and say goodbye properly, face to face. When you come back, find them before you do…

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19

When you come home, find them first, before the post, the phone, the kitchen.

The first half-minute of reunion often sets the tone for the whole evening.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 30:21

Say plainly when you are here and for how long, so they never have to guess.

Naming your presence is a small gift that removes the guesswork of whether you are reachable.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 17:34

Before you part in the morning, take two minutes to learn one thing happening in your partner's day.

A short chat and a warm goodbye at parting keeps you connected through the hours apart.

A minuteRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 4:86

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