Focus, starting, and ADHD

A child who has spent years being told they are careless will often say yes to whoever finally seems glad of them. Work on how they see themselves is not a soft extra to the clinical work.

Count the corrections in a single day and it is easy to see what accumulates. By the time an offer comes from someone friendly, the pull is belonging…

Some people find they drive better in a manual, because there is always something to be done. Treat that as an experiment rather than a finding.

The reasoning is the same as a fidget toy or a standing desk. A little constant demand can keep an under-occupied system in the room instead of…

Blood pressure on a stimulant is an individual matter. For most people it is a non-event, and where it does rise the answer is often a different stimulant rather than none at all.

No blood test or cheek swab will tell you in advance which one suits you. Finding out means trying, measuring and being willing to change, which is…

If the first medicine disappoints, that is information about the first medicine. Plenty of people who get nothing from one class do well on another.

Methylphenidate and amphetamine are not the same drug at different strengths. They work by partly different routes, so a poor result on one says…

Most people who try do find something that helps, but often not the first thing they try. Not responding to one class of stimulant says surprisingly little about the other.

The high response figures you may have read come from people who worked through more than one option, not from one prescription going well. Response…

When medication works, its best effect is often on everything else you were already trying. Coaching, exercise, a routine: each of them needs enough attention to get started, and attention is the thing in short supply.

That is why setting medication against the other approaches usually misses the point. The plan you could not keep last year may be perfectly keepable…

Unmanaged ADHD wrecks sleep, food and movement, and wrecked sleep, food and movement make the attention worse the next day. The loop feeds itself, which is also the hopeful part: a small repair anywhere in it pays back more than it should.

Short sleep hits the same front part of the brain that is already struggling, so a late night costs you more than it costs other people. Pick the one…

Food colouring is the one narrow exception in this area. Large studies suggest it may mildly wind up some very young children, so a trial removal in a preschooler is a reasonable thing to do.

Keep it in proportion though. This is a minor irritant in a subset of little children, nowhere near the sweeping dietary cause that was claimed…

The restrictive elimination diet has real methodological problems, and it is expensive and exhausting to run. If a family still wants to try it, they can, because unproven and dangerous are different words.

There is usually more to lose by forbidding it. A family who feels blocked either does it anyway without telling you or spends another year…

Play therapy and insight based psychotherapy do not treat ADHD. There is no buried, unexpressed feeling driving it that talking will let out.

The difficulty sits in executive control and how it develops, not in hidden conflict. That said, a child with ADHD can also be anxious, grieving or…

One client took two years of steady work to get a single app off her phone. If you are three weeks in and it is still there, you are not doing this wrong.

Change here is slower than nearly everyone expects, including the people helping. Saying so early protects both sides: you do not read a slow month…

Try one hour with the phone away and out of reach, then talk about what came up. The hour itself is the information.

What surfaces is usually specific and useful. The twenty minute mark where the hand starts moving. The exact worry about what is being missed. The…

Nothing here does the job on its own. Medication if it suits you, a few practical systems, something for the low mood and shame that has built up, and the people you live with brought into it.

The practical layer is the easiest to describe and the first to fall over, because whether you use a system at all depends on how you feel about…

The parts of this that look like lifestyle, meaning sleep, driving, drinking, appointments that get missed, are the parts carrying the most risk across a lifetime. They are also the most changeable parts.

You may have met a striking figure quoted about untreated ADHD and years of life lost. Take the point underneath rather than the number: risk from…

Getting your ordinary life a bit calmer is worth doing for its own sake. More sleep, a little more structure, food that is not all improvised. Not perfect, just good enough to work with.

It will not give you more capacity than you have. What it does is let you use more of what you already have, more of the time, which is usually the…

Where you can, let the learning be something done rather than something sat through. Typing instead of writing, a calculator instead of longhand, a built model instead of an essay.

The knowledge is usually already there. What fails is showing it through a long, still, low feedback task, and that is the part worth redesigning.…

The diet evidence has drifted away from cutting particular things out and towards eating decently overall. That is easier on everyone at the table.

Removing additives or colourings helps a small number of children, and the trouble is that you cannot tell in advance who they are, so most families…

Think of ADHD as sitting at the centre of an onion. Poor sleep, sleep apnoea, low vitamin levels, allergy, ongoing pain, untreated anxiety or low mood all sit in layers around it, and each one makes the centre look worse than it is.

This explains something that otherwise looks strange: treatments that do nothing whatever for ADHD can still make a real difference, because they…

Think of it the way you would think about diabetes. Something to manage with several things at once, most days, for as long as it is there.

That frame does a lot of quiet work. It says the treatment is ongoing rather than a course you finish, it explains why things slide back when…

The stack goes: understand it, medicate where that is right, change what the adults do, change what the day asks, and keep arguing the child's corner. Each layer does a job the others cannot.

None of them stands in for another, which is why swapping one out leaves a gap rather than a smaller plan. Medication does not reorganise a…