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When one bit of you wants to let the feeling come and another bit is frightened of it, you are not being difficult. You are two things at once, and both of them have their reasons.
The frightened side is usually the one that kept you going for years, so shoving past it tends to make it dig in harder. It works better to turn…
When a feeling is genuinely unbearable, escaping it is the only regulator you have, so the drinking or the shutting down is doing a job. Build up what you can bear and the job disappears.
It helps to stop asking why you keep reaching for the thing and start asking what state you were in just before you reached. Usually it is a…
Before you go anywhere near the hard memory, you need to be able to stay in your own body while something difficult is happening in it. That capacity is part of the work, not a delay before it starts.
Phase based approaches put this first for a plain reason: people who cannot bear the arousal either drop out or push through and come away worse. If…
With your eyes closed, bring to mind someone who is glad to see you, and let your face receive that look. A small smile usually arrives in the eyes on its own.
It can be someone you love, someone who loved you, a teacher from years ago, or an animal. The point is not the memory but the feeling of being…
Open your mouth and put on a big obvious fake yawn. More often than not a real one follows, and the soft palate lets go with it.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Yawns are catching, so if you are sitting with someone else one of you starting will usually set off the other. Let it be a proper one: jaw wide,…