Practices

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Theme · Touch and bodywork
Your nervous system 108What anger actually is 83Medication and how it works 83The moment before you snap 76Choosing your response 73Get started 65Systems for daily life 62Grounding and settling 60Equanimity and perspective 57The fear underneath anger 57Cool the body first 55Touch and bodywork 52Your sense of time 52What ADHD actually is 49Food, caffeine and fuel 49Moving your body 48Bringing the future closer 46When everything feels flat 44Exercise, food and other supports 44Treatment and medication 43Getting assessed and diagnosed 42Feelings and focus 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Practising under provocation 36Screens and attention 31Shame and stigma 30Making it stick 29Breathing 28Structure and routine 25What worry does 24Treatment and medication 24Feeling from the inside 23Tolerate distress 23Being seen and judged 22What you are actually defending 21Growing empathy 20Remembering to do it 20When you use something to cope 19Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Obsessions and compulsions 13Breaking the worry loop 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Emotions as signals 12Self-compassion 12Facing it a step at a time 11Question the thought 11Shame 10Knowing your partner 10Use your strengths 9Posture and how you carry yourself 8Repair after rupture 8Anger, alcohol and the body 8Gratitude 7Shared spiritual life 7When anger turns to harm 7Meaning after harm 4Letting it out safely 4When you go numb 4Living with uncertainty 4Notice the pattern and flex 3Act on your values 3Safety and grounding 3Rest and pacing 3Rebuilding trust 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Name what you feel 3Let the wave come 3Calm the body 3Ride the urge 2Work with your brain 2Your window of tolerance 2Listen to the body 2Rituals of connection 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Patience and trust 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Care for yourself in loss 2Affection and touch 2The cost of avoiding 2Panic and the body 2Listening and understanding 1Validate yourself and others 1
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Picture somewhere peaceful and then walk in it. Feel the ground under each foot, your legs moving, and count the steps up to twenty.

The counting keeps you there instead of drifting off, and the feet are the important part. A calm scene that stays a picture in your head does very…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 19:24

Cross your hands to the opposite shoulders and stroke slowly down to your elbows and hands, like a hug you are giving yourself. Three to five strokes, unhurried.

Then, if you want the rest of it: from the middle of your forehead out to the temples and along the hairline to the ears, from the crown down towards…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 12:93

Pain is rarely one thing. There is the raw sensation, the memory of every other time, how you feel about it now, whether you think you can cope, and what you conclude about yourself.

Pulling those apart is useful because they do not all move together. You may not be able to change the ache itself, and you can often change how…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 12:84

Ordinary harmless sensation competes with pain on its way up. Rubbing, squeezing or stroking near a sore place gives the nerves plenty of other traffic to carry.

This is why everybody rubs a banged elbow without being taught to. The useful part is that you can do it deliberately: firm strokes along the limb, a…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 16:69

Squeeze slowly down one arm with the opposite hand, then the other, and work over whatever muscles you can reach. No table, no appointment, nobody else in the room.

Firm and rhythmic beats fiddly. Give the forearms, upper arms, shoulders and thighs a proper squeeze and release, a few seconds each. Doing it…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 19:24

Aching shoulders and a bad back are not separate from finding it hard to concentrate. Pain takes up room in your head, and there is less left for anything else.

People who are restless tend to hold more tension and pick up more injuries, and then the pain makes the focus worse, and round it goes. So it is…

Twenty minutesTouch and bodyworkMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Reviews do not support acupuncture as a treatment for attention difficulties. Some studies of acupuncture alongside counselling have done better than dummy needling alongside counselling, which is a more modest claim than it first sounds.

The likeliest reading is that a warm, unhurried practitioner who examines you carefully is doing much of the work. Needles are very fine and harm is…

Twenty minutesTouch and bodyworkMedical and treatmentQur’an 9:128

There is a route the calming nerve takes through you: eyes, then jaw and mouth, then throat and neck, then shoulders and chest, then belly. You can visit each stop in turn and simply notice what is there.

Give every area a moment before you move on. Soften around the eyes, let the jaw hang, sigh the throat loose, feel the chest lift, then rest a hand…

Twenty minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 5:6

Talking is not the only door in. Exercise, massage, acupressure, yoga, tai chi and the rest go at the body first and let the mind follow, which is the opposite direction from most therapy.

That is why they sit well beside talking work rather than competing with it. If words keep circling the same ground, changing what your body is doing…

Twenty minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 21:90

The best ending is often that therapy stops and the practices carry on. People finish their sessions and keep the yoga, the bodywork, the acupressure, the sitting quietly.

It is worth building towards that from early on rather than at the end. If everything that settles you happens in one room with one person, then…

Twenty minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 48:29

Body based approaches have been linked with better physical and mental health, easier relationships, and in some settings lower use of painkillers and psychiatric medication.

That last one tends to interest the people holding the budget, so it is worth knowing if you are trying to get this kind of work taken seriously…

Twenty minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 16:69

People who are sure they could never lie still for an hour tend to be asleep within ten minutes of getting on the table. Being unable to fidget seems to do it.

Worth saying in advance to anyone who is putting off booking. It is the same effect as a car journey knocking out a child who has not stopped moving…

LongerTouch and bodyworkMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:11

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