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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Who it is written for · Me
My husband or wife 9Me 9
On your own, or with someone
On my own 7Involves someone else 2
Theme · Gratitude
Medication and how it works 91Systems for daily life 60Staying regulated in conflict 60Your nervous system 54What anger actually is 50Get started 47Choosing your response 44Equanimity and perspective 44The moment before you snap 43Moving your body 42Bringing the future closer 41The fear underneath anger 39Your sense of time 34Feelings and focus 32Touch and bodywork 31Exercise, food and other supports 28Growing empathy 26Getting assessed and diagnosed 25Knowing your partner 25Grounding and settling 24When everything feels flat 24Food, caffeine and fuel 24Answering bids 24Practising under provocation 22Treatment and medication 22What ADHD actually is 20Screens and attention 20What you are actually defending 19Cool the body first 19Structure and routine 19Repair after rupture 19Breathing 18Making it stick 18Being seen and judged 18Shared spiritual life 17Rebuilding trust 17Treatment and medication 15Fondness and admiration 15Affection and touch 15What worry does 15Emotions as signals 14Rituals of connection 13Breaking the worry loop 13Remembering to do it 13Listening and understanding 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 12Feeling from the inside 12Shame and stigma 12Tolerate distress 9Gratitude 9When you use something to cope 9Use your strengths 8Self-compassion 8Facing it a step at a time 6Anger, alcohol and the body 6Question the thought 5Posture and how you carry yourself 4Meaning after harm 4Safety and grounding 4Notice the pattern and flex 3Name what you feel 3Calm the body 3Working with anger 3Let the wave come 3When anger turns to harm 3Act on your values 3Your worth is not conditional 3Care for yourself in loss 2Rest and pacing 2Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Listen to the body 2Validate yourself and others 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Help someone grieving 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2The cost of avoiding 2Ask and say no well 2When you go numb 1Shame 1Panic and the body 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Living with uncertainty 1
Approach
Core 5Gottman 4

Give your spouse one genuine compliment today, specific enough that it could only be them.

Not nice shirt. The way you handled that call was so calm. Precise praise lands deepest.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 55:60

When resentment rises today, name one thing you are grateful to your spouse for instead.

The mind can rehearse grievances or blessings. Choose the blessing, out loud if you can.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 14:7

Thank them for one specific thing, today.

Not "thanks for everything." Pick one thing from the last two days and name it exactly: "Thank you for taking the bins out when I was on that call. I…

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Thank them for something they do so routinely you had stopped noticing it.

The unremarked, dependable acts are exactly the ones that most deserve to be seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Say not just that you appreciated what they did, but what it saved you.

Naming the burden they spared you turns a thank-you into being truly seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Praise a quality of their character, not only something they did.

To be admired for who you are, not just what you produced, is a rare and steadying gift.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 68:4

Send them a message today naming one thing you are grateful for, with no occasion.

Unprompted gratitude, arriving in the middle of an ordinary day, lands especially softly.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Catch your partner doing something right, and thank them for it, specifically, on the spot.

Notice the small good things and say thanks. Appreciation given often keeps goodwill flowing.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 2:152

Build a habit of mind that scans your partner and your day for what to appreciate, not what to criticize.

What you look for grows. Train your eye toward their good and the relationship warms.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 16:18

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