Practices

A display organised by sound rather than by alphabet gives a child more to hold on to. Let them feel where each sound is made, lips, tongue, teeth, and match that to the letters that spell it.

Reading is learned from speech towards print, so a border running A, B, C tells a child very little about what they are actually doing. Grouping by…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 26:13

When the sound scores and the movement scores are both near the floor, you are looking at more than a reading problem. That pattern needs specialist teaching rather than a general classroom programme with a bit more of it.

Naming things quickly, repeating made up words, working out an unfamiliar word: all at the bottom. Then coordination and handwriting down in the same…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 20:29

A child can be excellent at blending sounds you give them aloud and still not read a word on the page. Practising one part very hard does not mean the whole thing has arrived.

Where a child has had a lot of instruction in one subskill, that skill will test well while the actual job stays out of reach. So test the job itself…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 2:32

For a very able student, an average score can be the finding rather than proof there is nothing wrong. If everything else sits far above and the sound skills sit in the middle, the distance between them is the thing to report.

Services are usually decided by a cutoff, so the most able affected students go their whole school career without help while working several times as…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 80:12

Prescribers usually begin below the dose likely to work and build upwards. That means the first weeks can be underwhelming by design, and it is not the moment to decide the whole thing has failed.

Ask at the outset what the plan is: the starting dose, what it is being built towards, how quickly, and what you should be noticing at each step.…

Twenty minutesMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5

Waiting to see how they get on carries a cost that is easy to miss. Every year a child spends behind narrows what is available to them the year after.

Treatment does not settle a life. What happens is that school reports, friendships and confidence build on one another, so a stretch of doing better…

Twenty minutesMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:84

If the medication question is the one burning a hole in your pocket, try holding it until last on purpose. Heard after everything else, the answer lands differently.

Most people arrive wanting to know about tablets and nothing else, and the risk in that is a plan made only of tablets. Sleep, movement, the shape of…

Twenty minutesMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 3:159

A long acting injection into muscle releases its medicine slowly over weeks. It lifts the daily burden of remembering, at the price of not being able to stop quickly if the medicine disagrees with you.

That trade is worth naming out loud rather than settling on someone's behalf. For a person whose entire difficulty is the daily doing, weeks of cover…

Twenty minutesMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:28

For most people who get as far as asking for help with ADHD, medication is the single change that shifts the most. It is not compulsory and plenty live well without it, and it does deserve an honest look rather than a place at the back of the queue.

The reason is unglamorous. Nearly every strategy anyone teaches assumes you can pause before responding, hold a plan in mind while doing something…

Twenty minutesMedication and how it worksADHD skillsQur’an 26:80

Tai chi, qigong, karate, whatever is running near you at a time you can make. Choose on availability, cost and what you actually like, because those decide whether you keep going.

The ingredients are much the same across these: steady movement, a structure somebody else designed, and a session that happens whether or not you…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 67:15

Children need to move before school, during it and after it. Keeping a child in at break until the work is finished takes the movement away from the very child whose finishing depended on it.

Break time is not the whole of it either. A few minutes on their feet between lessons, a walk before the day starts, something physical when they…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 62:10

If a movement class sounds like it comes with somebody else's beliefs attached, ask what actually happens in the room before ruling it out. Much of it can be done as plain movement.

Stretching, holding a shape, breathing steadily, none of that belongs to anyone. Teachers vary, and plenty will leave out the chanting or the framing…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 25:63

If you are thinking about a weighted blanket or vest for a child, let an occupational therapist set the weight. It is a specific number for a specific body, not something to guess at in a shop.

The pull to order one straight away is understandable, especially after months of bad nights. What an OT does is match the weight to the child's size…

Twenty minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 55:8

If you are going to take supplements, it is worth paying a small subscription to a service that assays what is actually in them. ConsumerLab is one, at roughly sixty dollars a year.

The thing to check about any such service is who funds it, because a tester paid by manufacturers is a marketing department with a laboratory…

Twenty minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:247

Calm is only half the training. Plenty of people are more frightened of stillness than of adrenaline, because stillness puts the guard down.

If everything you practise is a settling practice, half the range goes untrained, and you may be asking someone to drop a defence they still need. So…

Twenty minutesPosture and how you carry yourselfBody basedQur’an 25:64

Steadiness under provocation is built the way immunity is, in small doses taken on purpose, at a size you can still handle. Waiting for a real fight to test yourself is too big a dose to learn anything from.

In practice that means choosing something that stings a little and staying with it rather than swerving: the colleague whose tone you brace against,…

Twenty minutesPractising under provocationCBTQur’an 41:35

What you are proudest of will tell you where you are most easily wounded. The two grow on the same root.

Write down two or three things you would hate to be thought about you, then look at where they meet your ordinary week. Who is likely to imply it, in…

Twenty minutesPractising under provocationCBTQur’an 3:200

Anything that comes round every month should be leaving your account without you. Direct debits and standing orders take the remembering out of the job altogether, which beats any reminder you could set.

It is worth an afternoon. List what recurs, automate what can be automated, and put one calendar note to check the statement each month instead of…

Twenty minutesRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 23:8

Every extra step in a task is another place to lose it. Three clicks and done beats a process with a form, an envelope and a walk to the postbox, even when the second one saves a little money.

Before you commit to a routine, count its steps, then take some out. Bin bags stored next to the bin, stamps kept with the envelopes, paying on the…

Twenty minutesRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 16:91

Ask two questions and then sit with the difference. How much time on this would you like? And how much do you think is actually good for you?

Almost nobody gives the same answer twice, and the gap between the numbers is more persuasive than anything you could have told them, because they…

Twenty minutesScreens and attentionADHD skillsQur’an 18:46

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