Practices

Do not stay hidden. Tell your partner about your day, your worries, your inner world.

Hiding your reality to protect them keeps you strangers. Let them know you.

You can say what an SSRI does in one sentence. It blocks the doorway that carries serotonin back out of the gap between two nerve cells, so more of it stays there for longer and is likelier to be picked up.

Worth being able to say plainly, because most people are carrying something vaguer and more frightening than that. It also sets a fair expectation.…

Serotonin syndrome comes from stacking, and the second agent is usually something nobody thought to mention: a migraine tablet, a cough medicine, a herbal remedy for low mood.

Triptans, tramadol, dextromethorphan, linezolid and St John's wort all count, as do other antidepressants. Someone who mentions in passing that they…

The standing side-effect list is sexual difficulty, less appetite, an unsettled stomach, disturbed sleep and headache. Sexual side effects are common, and almost nobody raises them unprompted.

So ask directly, and ask about sleep while you are there. People do not usually announce these things. They quietly stop taking the tablet and say…

If a treatment reliably produces strange sensations, describe them beforehand. Expected strangeness is far easier to sit through than strangeness that arrives unannounced.

With esketamine, feeling oddly detached from your body or the room is the drug doing what it does, not a sign of harm, and it usually clears within a…

If a young driver in your house takes medication, the dose and the car keys belong together. Driving is the everyday task where one lost second costs the most.

The gap tends to open at weekends and in the holidays, when the dose gets skipped because there is no school and then someone drives anyway. Make it…

If swallowing the capsule is the sticking point, ask whether yours is the bead type that can be opened and tipped onto a spoonful of soft food. The little beads go down unchewed and the medicine still lasts as long as it should.

Inside these capsules sit lots of coated pellets, some with thin coats that dissolve early and some with thicker coats that dissolve later, which is…

There is now a version taken in the evening that only switches on around nine hours later, so it is already working when you wake. The point of it is the morning, not the night.

Most families know the first hour of the day as the worst one, because the tablet taken at breakfast has not started yet and everyone still has to…

Saying that medication helps is not the same as saying everyone should be on it. If you have walked in braced for a push, it is fine to say so at the start.

Plenty of people do well with sleep, movement, work that suits them and someone in their corner, and plenty of people need all of that and a tablet…

Most long acting stimulant capsules hold two sorts of beads, one that dissolves straight away and one coated to dissolve later. That is the whole reason a single morning capsule can do what used to need a lunchtime dose as well.

It matters because the midday dose was the one that got missed, and missing it was rarely carelessness. A dose that has to be remembered in the…

Long acting stimulants are the usual starting point for a plain reason: they cover the most hours and they remove the lunchtime dose, which is the dose ADHD is most likely to swallow whole.

Remembering a tablet in the middle of a busy day is itself an executive task, so asking for it is asking the person to do the thing they came for…

People often refuse one name and accept another when both contain the same drug. Ritalin and Concerta are both methylphenidate, delivered differently.

A brand collects a reputation that has nothing to do with the molecule, usually from something somebody said years ago. So ask plainly: what is the…

When a dose that was working seems to stop working in a growing child, check height and weight before you reach for the word tolerance. These medicines are dosed by body weight, and a child can simply have outgrown the dose.

It is the cheaper explanation and the more common one, and it takes a single appointment to test. Bring the growth chart and the dates when you…

An untreated attention difficulty rarely stays a blank space. People tend to find something that steadies them, and what they find is not always kind.

Nicotine, coffee at strange hours, cannabis in the evening, a bit of somebody else's prescription: these are often attempts at self correction rather…

Parents often ask whether starting a stimulant now makes drug problems more likely later. The question deserves the actual evidence, gently given, rather than reassurance.

It is one of the most studied worries in this field, followed in the same children across years instead of guessed at. Say what was looked at and…

In simulator work the biggest improvements on medication show up in the drivers who were worst without it: stopping properly, slowing for an amber, actually looking around.

That pattern is quietly reassuring. A drug that made everyone sharper would lift the good drivers as well, and this does not look like that. It looks…

Canada once pulled a stimulant from the market after four cardiac deaths, then reversed the decision. Three of the four had heart abnormalities from birth and the fourth had been hiking in desert heat without water.

A handful of deaths with nothing to compare them against cannot tell you what caused them. That is an uncomfortable thing to say about people who…

No behavioural programme matches what medication does to the core symptoms. It is an uncomfortable sentence for anyone who would rather not medicate, and it is what the trials keep showing.

That does not make the rest of the work pointless, and it does change the order things go in. Where someone is drowning, the fastest reliable help…

Medication belongs in ordinary treatment here rather than at the end of the queue. Most people with a clear diagnosis will use it at some point.

Strategies and accommodations do real work while somebody is watching, and they fall away in the settings where nobody is. That is most of adult…

Nobody is sitting in the passenger seat handing out rewards for safe driving. Medication is the part of treatment that is present when no adult is.

Behavioural plans need somebody to run them. The moments carrying the most risk in adolescence are the ones with nobody there: the drive home, the…