Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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21 practices
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Who it is written for
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On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Moving your body
Medication and how it works 61Systems for daily life 37The cost of avoiding 36Screens and attention 26Staying regulated in conflict 24Moving your body 21Treatment and medication 20Knowing your partner 15Exercise, food and other supports 15Rebuilding trust 14What ADHD actually is 13What anger actually is 13Feelings and focus 13Affection and touch 13Listening and understanding 12Rituals of connection 11Your nervous system 11Breaking the worry loop 11Answering bids 11Repair after rupture 11Your sense of time 11The moment before you snap 10Getting assessed and diagnosed 10Structure and routine 10Facing it a step at a time 10Food, caffeine and fuel 10Shared spiritual life 10What worry does 10Bringing the future closer 9Grounding and settling 9Cool the body first 7Breathing 7Choosing your response 7Emotions as signals 7Growing empathy 7Equanimity and perspective 7Get started 7When everything feels flat 7Treatment and medication 7Remembering to do it 6Reading, numbers and learning differences 6When you use something to cope 5Shame and stigma 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Touch and bodywork 4Tolerate distress 4Being seen and judged 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Making it stick 3Panic and the body 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Practising under provocation 3The fear underneath anger 2What you are actually defending 2Shame 2Rest and pacing 2Gratitude 2Fondness and admiration 2Feeling from the inside 2Ask and say no well 2Help someone grieving 2When you go numb 1Validate yourself and others 1Safety and grounding 1Living with uncertainty 1
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When you need to correct one person, say it to the room. Everyone gets the instruction and nobody gets the sting.

Good instructors do this without thinking: they see one child dropping their guard and say that everybody needs to keep their hands up. The teaching…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 31:19

Use a timer you can see rather than a warning you have to remember. A dial that shrinks, or a light that goes from green to red, does the work that five more minutes never quite does.

Time is not something everyone feels passing. Turning it into something you can look at moves the job from guessing to seeing, which is much easier.…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:47

When someone describes a day like that, do not answer with a lecture on living better. Say that this is hard, and that you find parts of it hard too.

They have heard the virtue speech many times already and it has never once helped. Admitting that you also struggle to exercise, or to keep up with…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 25:63

Teaching a child to fight works better when it comes with a plain rule: you defend, you never start it. The rule is doing as much work as the training.

A child whose brakes are slow benefits from having the decision made in advance, out loud, many times over. Then it is not something to work out in…

Five minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:60

Before you decide a club is out of reach, ask. Some let children earn the uniform through the levels, and plenty have quiet arrangements for families who need them.

Cost keeps more children out of these things than lack of interest does. A single phone call is worth making, and the answer is often better than the…

Five minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 53:39

A scheduled break does not break concentration. It is the unplanned wandering off that does that, and a known break tends to replace it.

Teachers usually expect movement breaks to shatter the lesson and find the opposite: children come back more easily because the break is part of the…

Five minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 62:10

When nobody has checked whether a benefit lasts, that is not the same as finding out it does not. Following people up for a year costs money that most studies never had.

Two mistakes sit either side of this. One is reading a gap in the evidence as bad news. The other is assuming something lasts because a trial…

Five minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 53:40

Speech has a beat inside it. When a child cannot hold a steady rhythm, that often sits alongside difficulty with reading and with the flow of talking, so time spent clapping or tapping a beat together is doing something real.

You need nothing for this. Clap a slow pattern, ask them to clap it back, then keep it running while you both count or walk in time to it.…

Five minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 31:19

Start the movement slow enough that it is almost boring. Speed it up once it has gone smooth, and only then add the thinking part.

Throwing a beanbag back and forth, bouncing a ball, drumming on the table: pick something plain and let it become automatic before you make it…

Five minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 34:11

When somebody does not take up the movement you suggested, ask what got in the way before deciding they did not want to. Usually it is money, childcare, transport or time.

Cost, an awkward class time, nobody to watch the children, a room full of people you would have to make conversation with. None of that is…

Five minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 67:15

If you are the therapist, you do not need to become the movement teacher as well. Sending somebody to a person trained for it is the better version of helping.

The evidence is for movement alongside therapy, not for therapy with a few stretches added by someone who picked them up from a video. Handing it…

Five minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 28:26

Arrange to meet someone. A neighbour at the gate at eight, a friend expecting you, even an app counting a streak. Turning up for someone else is easier than turning up for yourself.

Benefits that arrive in six months are weak motivators. Something that pays out today works better: a person waiting, a number that goes up, a…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:77

If a child is climbing the walls, green space helps most, a walk down a busy street helps a bit, and staying in the room helps least. Any of the three beats none.

The research on this puts them in that order rather than saying only a forest will do. A park, a scruffy playing field, the bit of grass behind the…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 29:20

Bolt the movement onto something you would want to do anyway. A game with a friend, a walk to somewhere with good coffee at the end, a route past the river.

People keep up a weekly game with a mate for forty years and never once call it exercise. The friendship is what they turn up for and the moving…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 62:10

Clumsy is not a description you can work with. Balance, core strength, shifting your weight, big movements, small ones, catching a ball, keeping a beat: those you can look at one at a time.

Break it down and you usually find a child is fine in four of those and struggling in two. That turns a vague sense that they are awkward into…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:16

Not every family can get occupational therapy. Almost anyone can get outside with a skipping rope, a long rope turned by two people, or a board.

Skipping and boarding ask for much of what a therapist would be working on anyway: both sides of the body keeping time with each other, judging the…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 71:20

Children need to move before school, during it and after it. Keeping a child in at break until the work is finished takes the movement away from the very child whose finishing depended on it.

Break time is not the whole of it either. A few minutes on their feet between lessons, a walk before the day starts, something physical when they…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 62:10

Talk first, move second. Ending a hard conversation with something physical gives the body a route back down.

This works for a therapy group and it works for an evening at home. Say the difficult thing, then walk, stretch, wash up, anything that puts you back…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 62:10

Unstructured play in a big open space settles a child. A structured class teaches them how to be with other children. You want some of each, for different reasons.

If you only ever book the class, you take away the roaming that calms them down. If you only ever send them out to roam, they miss the taking turns…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 71:19

For a child having a hard time, one adult who plainly thinks well of them makes more difference than almost anything else. A coach or a teacher can be that person.

Studies of children growing up through poverty, hunger and worse keep landing on the same finding: those who did well usually had somebody who…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 28:26

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