Loading practices
Loading practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
If nobody helped you learn to settle when you were small, you can still learn it now. Slower and more deliberately, but genuinely.
Reading about early development can leave people feeling sentenced, as though the window shut at three and that was that. The same capacity to adapt…
Being the baby who never cried is not the same as being secure. It can mean you learned very early that nobody was coming.
Some people regulate themselves beautifully and have never once been regulated by anybody else. From outside it reads as resilience. From inside it…
You can tell you are back when there is choice in it again: you can pick which thought to keep hold of, and how to answer what you feel.
The settled state is not the absence of things. It has a texture: clear, connected, reasonably hopeful, able to understand somebody and to feel…
Excitement and panic run on the same fuel. What turns it into play is feeling safe while it happens.
If you have learned to distrust your own energy, anything lively reads as a warning: a fast heart before a party, the buzz of an argument you are…
Thinking about a feeling tends to slow it down. Feeling it in your body tends to speed it up. Between those two you have a throttle.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
When someone is flooded, moving to words, naming and a little distance brings it down. When someone is flat and describing their week from behind…