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Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Theme
Medication and how it works 97Systems for daily life 69Getting assessed and diagnosed 54Get started 47Your nervous system 47Moving your body 43Exercise, food and other supports 40Treatment and medication 39What anger actually is 37Your sense of time 37Bringing the future closer 36Touch and bodywork 30What ADHD actually is 28Screens and attention 26Equanimity and perspective 26Growing empathy 25When everything feels flat 25Structure and routine 25The moment before you snap 25Choosing your response 24Feelings and focus 23Food, caffeine and fuel 23What worry does 22Grounding and settling 21Treatment and medication 20The fear underneath anger 20Knowing your partner 20The cost of avoiding 19Breathing 18Shared spiritual life 16Being seen and judged 16Practising under provocation 15Making it stick 15Fondness and admiration 14Breaking the worry loop 14Remembering to do it 13What you are actually defending 13Shame and stigma 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Answering bids 12Staying regulated in conflict 11Emotions as signals 10Listening and understanding 10Reading, numbers and learning differences 10Feeling from the inside 10When you use something to cope 10Gratitude 9Rituals of connection 7Use your strengths 7Affection and touch 7When anger turns to harm 6Cool the body first 6Self-compassion 6Rebuilding trust 5Anger, alcohol and the body 5Obsessions and compulsions 5Facing it a step at a time 5Tolerate distress 5Posture and how you carry yourself 4Question the thought 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Your worth is not conditional 3Repair after rupture 3Panic and the body 3Rest and pacing 2Meaning after harm 2Keep the bond 2Act on your values 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Work with your brain 2Your window of tolerance 1Care for yourself in loss 1Shame 1Safety and grounding 1Listen to the body 1Living with uncertainty 1When you go numb 1
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Most autistic people also meet the criteria for ADHD. The other direction is much thinner: only a small minority of people with ADHD meet the criteria for autism.

That is mostly arithmetic rather than mystery. ADHD is the more common of the two, so one overlap looks large from one side and small from the other.…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 21:7

Autism and ADHD share some surface features and are still two different things. The social difficulty in each arrives by a different road.

With ADHD it tends to be impulsiveness and missing what was going on: the interruption, the thing said too fast, the friend never rung back. With…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 96:5

A reward that comes every time is easy to walk away from. A reward that turns up unpredictably is the one you cannot put down, and that is exactly how your phone is built.

Sometimes there is something good in the notifications and usually there is not, and it is that uncertainty which keeps you checking. Willpower is…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:186

When you read that some proportion of people with ADHD have a particular problem, the number tells you nothing until you know the figure for everybody else.

Twenty percent sounds alarming until you learn what the rate is in the general population. What matters is the multiple, how many times more likely,…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 39:9

Hypervigilance after trauma and ADHD scanning look much alike from outside. Often the honest answer is that both are present, and the real question is how much of each.

Watching that comes from threat is aimed at something and tends to switch on in particular situations. ADHD distraction is not fussy about where it…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 49:6

Damage to the front of the brain can produce something that looks a great deal like ADHD: poor impulse control, blunted judgement, a person their family says has changed.

The nineteenth century railway worker who survived an iron rod through the frontal lobes is the standard illustration, and what altered in him was…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 58:11

Check the licensing before assuming you cannot afford a good instrument. Some come with permission to photocopy once you have bought the manual.

That detail matters most to the clinicians least likely to have a budget, which usually means the services seeing the families with fewest options. A…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 65:7

There is more than one decent instrument, and which you use often comes down to what you were trained on. If you have never used one, say so rather than having a view about it.

Several rating scales are in wide circulation for children and for adults, validated by different groups for slightly different purposes. Picking one…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:32

Ask for the old school reports every time. Some people arrive with a folder of every one they ever had, and you cannot tell in advance which people those are.

It is easy to assume that a parent who is disorganised will not have kept anything, and that assumption quietly costs you evidence. Teacher comments…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 16:43

When you need a date, hand people events rather than months. Was that before or after the holiday? Same year as the move?

Asking whether something happened between October and January invites a guess. Asking whether it was before or after a wedding, a house move or a…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

Find out what they have tried before that did not work. It saves everybody from a plan that failed this person two years ago.

Most people arriving for an assessment have been trying things for years: apps, alarms, lists, an early night, a course somebody recommended.…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 42:38

The manual now asks for signs by age twelve rather than age seven, and it added wording that fits adult life, including restlessness felt on the inside.

The older cut-off quietly excluded a familiar group: bright children, or well supported ones, who managed until the demands rose and only visibly…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 96:5

Run a short anxiety and depression screener alongside the ADHD measure at every intake, not only when someone mentions their mood.

Mood and anxiety sit beside ADHD often enough that leaving them out means guessing about the concentration difficulty in front of you. Doing it as…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 21:83

A tick beside 'does your mind race' means less than it looks like. Someone whose mind has raced since they were nine has nothing to compare it against, so ask what changed and when before you let the score speak.

Take the endorsed items one at a time and put a period of time around each one. When did this start? Was there ever a stretch when it was not there?…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 49:6

Both people will tell you they were up for three nights. The useful question is what they did with those hours: driven and busy points one way, wired and wrecked points another.

In mania the need for sleep falls away and the activity has a purpose behind it, however unrealistic that purpose looks from outside. In ADHD the…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 20:114

Nearly everything on the ADHD list can show up inside a bipolar presentation, and the reverse is not true. So the shared features settle nothing, and the distinctly manic ones carry all the weight.

Put your attention on episodic elevation, grandiosity and a genuinely reduced need for sleep. Those do not belong to ADHD on its own, so they tell…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 39:9

When someone cannot let go of the old rule after the rules have changed, that is the same machinery that loses their keys and drops the thread of a sentence. Stuck, not stubborn.

It shows up in small places. The game changes and they argue for the old version. The usual road is closed and the whole trip falls apart. A plan…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

Ask twice. First, who in the family has an actual diagnosis. Then, who do you look back on now and wonder about. The second question nearly always brings more than the first.

Plenty of families never went near a clinic. Help was not trusted, or the answer at home was to stop complaining and get on with it, so the…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 50:16

A child who grew up listening for a parent's seizure learns to keep half an ear on the room, and years later that can look a great deal like distractibility. Ask what they were listening out for as a child.

This turns up most often where there was one parent and nobody else to keep watch. The person cannot settle, cannot stay with a task, and has assumed…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 91:8

Alongside diagnoses, ask how relatives died. Falls from roofs, crashes, deaths with the safety gear left on the ground: these recur in some family lines and they say something a list of diagnoses cannot.

Ask it gently and let people take their time, because you are asking about grief as much as about pattern. What you are listening for is a habit of…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 12:87

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