Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

9 practices

Gratitude Coping, mostly Clear all

Who it is written for

Me 9 My husband or wife 9

On your own, or with someone

On my own 7 Involves someone else 2

Theme · Gratitude

Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70 Getting assessed and diagnosed 63 Your nervous system 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 What anger actually is 60 Get started 48 Moving your body 48 Equanimity and perspective 46 Choosing your response 44 Bringing the future closer 43 The moment before you snap 43 The fear underneath anger 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Your sense of time 40 Treatment and medication 39 Feelings and focus 38 Touch and bodywork 38 Screens and attention 32 When everything feels flat 32 What ADHD actually is 30 Growing empathy 28 Grounding and settling 27 Structure and routine 26 The cost of avoiding 26 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 What worry does 23 Practising under provocation 22 What you are actually defending 20 Emotions as signals 20 Cool the body first 20 Treatment and medication 20 Breathing 19 Repair after rupture 19 Making it stick 19 Being seen and judged 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 16 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Shame and stigma 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Rituals of connection 13 Listening and understanding 13 Remembering to do it 13 Feeling from the inside 12 When anger turns to harm 11 When you use something to cope 11 Tolerate distress 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Facing it a step at a time 9 Gratitude 9 Self-compassion 8 Use your strengths 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Obsessions and compulsions 6 Question the thought 5 Safety and grounding 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Meaning after harm 4 Let the wave come 3 Shame 3 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Panic and the body 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Act on your values 3 Calm the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Get it out of your head 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Work with your brain 2 Face it gently 2 Rest and pacing 2 Ask and say no well 2 Find meaning 2 Patience and trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Listen to the body 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Help someone grieving 2 When you go numb 1 Living with uncertainty 1

Approach

Core 5 Gottman 4

Give your spouse one genuine compliment today, specific enough that it could only be them.

Not nice shirt. The way you handled that call was so calm. Precise praise lands deepest.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 55:60

When resentment rises today, name one thing you are grateful to your spouse for instead.

The mind can rehearse grievances or blessings. Choose the blessing, out loud if you can.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 14:7

Thank them for one specific thing, today.

Not "thanks for everything." Pick one thing from the last two days and name it exactly: "Thank you for taking the bins out when I was on that call. I…

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Thank them for something they do so routinely you had stopped noticing it.

The unremarked, dependable acts are exactly the ones that most deserve to be seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Say not just that you appreciated what they did, but what it saved you.

Naming the burden they spared you turns a thank-you into being truly seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Praise a quality of their character, not only something they did.

To be admired for who you are, not just what you produced, is a rare and steadying gift.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 68:4

Send them a message today naming one thing you are grateful for, with no occasion.

Unprompted gratitude, arriving in the middle of an ordinary day, lands especially softly.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Catch your partner doing something right, and thank them for it, specifically, on the spot.

Notice the small good things and say thanks. Appreciation given often keeps goodwill flowing.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 2:152

Build a habit of mind that scans your partner and your day for what to appreciate, not what to criticize.

What you look for grows. Train your eye toward their good and the relationship warms.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 16:18

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