Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have
Who it is written for
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On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme
Your nervous system 81Medication and how it works 69Get started 61Systems for daily life 52What anger actually is 50Your sense of time 48Food, caffeine and fuel 43The moment before you snap 42Choosing your response 41Exercise, food and other supports 40Moving your body 37What ADHD actually is 35Treatment and medication 34Equanimity and perspective 33Bringing the future closer 33Grounding and settling 31The fear underneath anger 30When everything feels flat 29Screens and attention 28Touch and bodywork 27Getting assessed and diagnosed 25Structure and routine 25Practising under provocation 24Feelings and focus 22Shame and stigma 22Making it stick 20Treatment and medication 19Cool the body first 19What worry does 19Being seen and judged 18Breathing 17Growing empathy 17Remembering to do it 17When you use something to cope 15Feeling from the inside 15What you are actually defending 13Reading, numbers and learning differences 12Fondness and admiration 12Obsessions and compulsions 10Tolerate distress 10Answering bids 10Righteous anger and perfectionism 10Staying regulated in conflict 9Self-compassion 8Use your strengths 8Knowing your partner 8Gratitude 7Shared spiritual life 7Breaking the worry loop 7Facing it a step at a time 7Emotions as signals 6Question the thought 6Anger, alcohol and the body 6Posture and how you carry yourself 5Shame 4Notice the pattern and flex 3When you go numb 3Your worth is not conditional 3Living with uncertainty 3When anger turns to harm 3Repair after rupture 2Rest and pacing 2Act on your values 2Face it gently 2Keep the bond 2Work with your brain 2Meaning after harm 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Care for yourself in loss 1Safety and grounding 1Rebuilding trust 1The cost of avoiding 1Listening and understanding 1Panic and the body 1Affection and touch 1Listen to the body 1Your window of tolerance 1
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When · Any ordinary day

When something does not get written down, go back to that exact moment with curiosity rather than a telling off. What was in your hands, where were you, what did you tell yourself?

The useful information is all in the specifics: the request came in the corridor, the phone was in your other hand, you were already late. That is a…

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 18:24

We all keep a few small stories that let us take the easier option in the moment. Not lies to other people, just the ones we tell ourselves and half believe.

They are not a sign of a bad character. Everybody has a set, and what you have been through shapes which ones you specialise in. The reason to know…

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 92:4

You are allowed to decide not to write things down. What you cannot do is choose that and then be upset with yourself when you forget.

Straddling is the expensive bit: taking the easy option in the moment and the guilt afterwards. Pick one honestly. Either the note gets written, or…

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 16:97

Some tasks are avoided because nobody has said what they want. Not knowing what good looks like is its own reason to keep walking past something.

An unclear job asks you to do two things at once: work out what it is, then do it. On top of that sits the worry of getting it wrong in a way you…

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 65:3

An avoided task charges you rent even on the days nothing goes wrong. The low hum of hoping nobody asks is part of what it costs.

When we weigh up leaving something undone, we usually count only the visible consequences, the letter that might arrive or the person who might…

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 3:133

A task you dislike needs a time and a place, not a place on the list. Tuesday at ten, at the kitchen table, is a plan. Soon is not.

Left in open competition, the dull job loses to everything more urgent and everything more interesting, every single day, and that is not a fault in…

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 2:148

Put the thing you are avoiding early in the day. Anything you place late gets pushed out by whatever the day turns into.

Early has two advantages at once. It is less likely to be shunted, because the day has not yet piled up behind it, and if it does slip it only slips…

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 62:10

Email is the easiest place to hide. It answers back, it never runs out, and by five o'clock it feels like you worked.

What makes it such a good stand-in for real work is that the rewards come in small unpredictable bursts and almost none of it asks much of you. Your…

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 2:148

Turn a vague plan into an if-then: when I sit down after lunch, I will open the one file.

Deciding in advance exactly when and where you will start removes the moment of friction where you usually stall.

Five minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

Sorting a pile of receipts is not difficult. Sitting with how dull it is, that is the difficult part, and it helps to say so out loud.

Once you know boredom is the real demand, you stop trying to simplify a task that is already simple and start making the dullness bearable instead. A…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 39:10

Sometimes the last minute really does produce your best work. Often it produces your worst, and those nights are much easier to forget.

That is what keeps the belief alive: it pays out just often enough. Rather than arguing about it, count. Take the last ten things you left to the…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 23:61

Paint the room is not a task. Fill the holes, tape the edges, buy the rollers, do one wall. That is four tasks, and each one ends.

A big undivided job sits in the head as one enormous demand, which is why looking at it tires you before you have lifted anything. Write the steps in…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 94:7

Promise yourself twenty minutes, or one podcast episode, rather than a finished result. Then the end is guaranteed however badly it goes.

Open ended unpleasant jobs are hard to walk into because you cannot see the far edge of them. A timer gives you one. Twenty minutes of receipts on…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 73:20

Go down the list and find the two items that have been sitting there for months. One of them needs doing this week. The other needs deleting, honestly and out loud.

A list full of things that never move quietly drains everything else on it, because you meet all of them each time you look. Clearing in either…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 39:10

Keep your clearest hours for the work that needs a clear head. Fold the laundry when you are half awake, not at ten in the morning when you have finally come alive.

Most of us have a window or two in the day when thinking is genuinely cheaper, and we spend it on email and tidying because those are easy to pick…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 20:26

Sitting exactly halfway between two options is its own kind of exhausting, and it produces nothing. If you have been weighing something for weeks, the weighing has quietly become the activity.

Give it a deadline and a method. One more week, the three things that matter most, and then you choose, knowing the choice will be imperfect. If you…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 20:25

When you are torn about something, get both sides out of your head and onto paper. Two columns, everything you can think of, no tidying as you go.

Holding both cases in mind at once is what wears you out, and it is why the same argument keeps starting from the beginning every evening. Once it is…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 20:114

Pick a system that is good enough, spend one evening on it at most, and then use it for a month without changing anything.

You can spend a very long time sharpening tools and never get round to the woodwork. An ordinary calendar used every day beats a beautiful one used…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 87:8

The other way through fog is to walk into it. Start badly, on purpose, and let the shape of the thing appear while you are working on it.

With some jobs you genuinely cannot know what you are doing until you are inside them, and waiting for clarity first just keeps you outside. Give…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

If the same three names keep coming up, compare those three and stop looking. Twenty options will not give you a better answer, only a later one.

Past a handful of choices, more searching adds very little while the cost of deciding keeps climbing, and if you are prone to circling it can stop…

Twenty minutesGet startedADHD skillsQur’an 23:61

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