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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
When you catch yourself dodging, just note it. Telling yourself off adds shame to a moment that already had plenty going on.
There is a difference between seeing what you did and grading it. Seeing keeps it available as a choice next time, while grading makes you want to…
When something you thought in the moment actually worked, name it. A line you produced yourself is worth more than any phrase handed to you.
It might be as ordinary as noticing that this person does not know you, or that none of this will matter next week. Write it down while you still…
Ask how settled you are and you will usually say fine. Look at your breathing instead, since it is generally more honest than the answer you give.
Quick, shallow breathing high in the chest usually means the moment is not over yet, whatever you have just told someone. In a session a therapist…
Going silent and hard is not a neutral act. A fixed stare and a set brow land on the other person's body as threat, even though you have not said a word.
People often think they are being restrained when they go cold, and are then surprised by how frightened or defensive the other person becomes. If…
Before you practise something exposing with someone, say out loud what is not at risk. I will not think less of you, and nothing between us changes here.
It sounds obvious and it does a great deal of work. If the relationship really is on the line, then the discomfort is not symbolic and no amount of…
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