Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Moving your body
Your nervous system 108Medication and how it works 83What anger actually is 83The moment before you snap 76Choosing your response 73Get started 65Systems for daily life 62Grounding and settling 60Equanimity and perspective 57The fear underneath anger 57Cool the body first 55Touch and bodywork 52Your sense of time 52Food, caffeine and fuel 49What ADHD actually is 49Moving your body 48Bringing the future closer 46Exercise, food and other supports 44When everything feels flat 44Treatment and medication 43Getting assessed and diagnosed 42Feelings and focus 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Practising under provocation 36Screens and attention 31Shame and stigma 30Making it stick 29Breathing 28Structure and routine 25What worry does 24Treatment and medication 24Feeling from the inside 23Tolerate distress 23Being seen and judged 22What you are actually defending 21Remembering to do it 20Growing empathy 20When you use something to cope 19Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Obsessions and compulsions 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Fondness and admiration 13Breaking the worry loop 13Answering bids 13Emotions as signals 12Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Facing it a step at a time 11Knowing your partner 10Shame 10Use your strengths 9Posture and how you carry yourself 8Anger, alcohol and the body 8Repair after rupture 8Gratitude 7When anger turns to harm 7Shared spiritual life 7When you go numb 4Letting it out safely 4Meaning after harm 4Living with uncertainty 4Calm the body 3Name what you feel 3Rebuilding trust 3Rest and pacing 3Safety and grounding 3Act on your values 3Let the wave come 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Get it out of your head 2Hold a boundary 2Work with your brain 2Face it gently 2Your window of tolerance 2Keep the bond 2Panic and the body 2Find meaning 2Listen to the body 2Care for yourself in loss 2Affection and touch 2Rituals of connection 2The cost of avoiding 2Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Validate yourself and others 1Listening and understanding 1
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When you are low, the thing most likely to help is the thing you have least appetite for. Make the first step small enough that appetite is not required.

Getting as far as the front door can be the whole task on a bad day. Standing up, putting your shoes on, then deciding, is a fair plan. Anyone…

Five minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 19:25

A movement practice comes apart into pieces: the shapes, the breathing, the noticing. On a day when the whole thing is beyond you, take one piece.

Just the breathing, sitting where you already are, is a practice. So is one stretch held for a minute. Doing a fragment keeps the thread going, and…

Five minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 2:239

Move earlier in the day if you can. Whatever it gives you is then available for the hours that follow, and the day has fewer chances to swallow it.

Evenings fill up with everything that got postponed, and the session is usually first to go. Morning does not have to mean dawn: before work, after…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 78:11

Put music on. A faster tempo pulls your pace up without you deciding to, and the same effort feels lighter when there is something to listen to.

Make a short list you genuinely like and save it for moving, so it does not turn into background. Podcasts and audiobooks do a similar job if music…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:16

Being outside gives your attention something to rest on rather than something to hold. That is why an hour outdoors leaves you clearer than an hour lying on the sofa.

Indoors, most of what you look at wants something from you. Outdoors, leaves moving, water, birds, the light changing, all of it holds you without…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 40:64

You do not need greenery for outside to help. Snow, grey sky, bare trees, a car park at dusk. Getting out still does something.

This matters if you live somewhere that is brown and frozen for half the year, or in a city with more concrete than park. Wrap up, go out for fifteen…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:2

No particular kind of movement wins. Balance work, martial arts, tai chi, swimming, all of it helps about as much, and what predicts the benefit is moving regularly at all.

This is good news, because it means you can stop researching and start doing. Pick whatever you have access to and will still be doing in a month. If…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:70

Learn a long sequence in small pieces and join them up afterwards. Nobody should be holding twelve steps in their head at once.

Take the first two moves until they are boring, then add the third. It feels slower and it is not, because the version learned this way stops falling…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:15

Doing the identical sequence every time is not boring for everyone. For some people the sameness is precisely what settles them.

Tai chi runs the same series again and again, and there is nothing to decide once you know it. It is a bit like having a programme on that you have…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:153

Slow movement practices seem to help mood, sleep and the general hum of stress. Bringing that background level down often does more for your concentration than trying to concentrate harder.

Running on a constant stress signal wears down exactly the part of you that plans, waits and holds a thought. So lowering the load is not a soft…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:15

Tai chi, qigong, karate, whatever is running near you at a time you can make. Choose on availability, cost and what you actually like, because those decide whether you keep going.

The ingredients are much the same across these: steady movement, a structure somebody else designed, and a session that happens whether or not you…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 67:15

A hard walk or a run works a little like a small dose of something. Alertness up, mood up, for a while afterwards.

This is a useful way to think about it because it puts movement in the category of things that do something to you, rather than things you ought to…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:60

Movement gives you back some willingness, not just some focus. The problem is often not that you cannot concentrate but that you cannot make yourself care enough to start.

Those are two different difficulties and the second one is usually the more disabling in adult life. After moving, the same task tends to feel…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 9:105

The best exercise is whichever one you go back to. Something you enjoy, outdoors if you can, with other people if that helps, and above all something you will do again on Thursday.

There is always a more efficient programme on paper. It does not matter if you stop after a fortnight. Judge any plan by whether you would still be…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:153

Moving your body is not a pleasant extra alongside the proper treatment for low mood. It has been tested as a treatment in its own right and it holds up.

This matters most when you are already doing other things and still struggling. Walking, cycling, swimming, anything that lifts your heart rate for a…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 9:105

If a movement class sounds like it comes with somebody else's beliefs attached, ask what actually happens in the room before ruling it out. Much of it can be done as plain movement.

Stretching, holding a shape, breathing steadily, none of that belongs to anyone. Teachers vary, and plenty will leave out the chanting or the framing…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 25:63

You do not have to walk into a room full of strangers for this to work. The moving and the attention are the active parts, and both travel happily to your living room.

Group classes suit some people and cost others far more than they give. A video at home, a quiet corner, the same fifteen minutes, all of it counts.…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 53:40

How often you move matters more than how hard. Pick something you would still do on a mediocre Tuesday.

Big efforts on good days followed by nothing for a fortnight tend to average out at very little. Three easy sessions a week that you actually keep…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 31:19

Some of what you are carrying has not finished happening. Movement that soothes rather than pushes tends to suit that better than anything strenuous.

Advice built around a danger that has passed does not fit a person still meeting it weekly, whether that is racism, an unsafe household or work that…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 2:153

Give a new habit two months rather than two weeks, and change one thing at a time. The old line about thirty days sets you up to feel like a failure on day thirty one.

Routines that wobble make repetition harder, and repetition is the whole mechanism, so it simply takes longer for some of us. Pick one change, keep…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:2

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