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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Area
Focus, starting, and ADHD 167Anger 86Your marriage 78Your body 60Worry and anxiety 32Low mood and hard feelings 17Yourself and your limits 4After harm 1Grief and loss 1
How long you have · A minute
A minute 446Five minutes 973Twenty minutes 342Longer 133
Who it is written for
Me 406A practitioner 343Someone I care about 211My husband or wife 92
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 332Struggling right now 59Getting ready for something 55
On your own, or with someone
On my own 333Involves someone else 88Both of us together 25
Theme
Medication and how it works 22Get started 20Systems for daily life 20Bringing the future closer 17The moment before you snap 16Structure and routine 16Your nervous system 15Choosing your response 14Fondness and admiration 14Your sense of time 14Growing empathy 13Treatment and medication 13Knowing your partner 11Answering bids 11Staying regulated in conflict 10What anger actually is 9Food, caffeine and fuel 9Gratitude 9Making it stick 9Exercise, food and other supports 9Listening and understanding 8Cool the body first 8Getting assessed and diagnosed 8Touch and bodywork 8Grounding and settling 7What ADHD actually is 7Screens and attention 7Moving your body 7Breathing 7Remembering to do it 6When everything feels flat 6Affection and touch 6Feelings and focus 6Shared spiritual life 5The fear underneath anger 5Equanimity and perspective 5Treatment and medication 5The cost of avoiding 5Being seen and judged 5Practising under provocation 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Shame and stigma 4What worry does 3Self-compassion 3Feeling from the inside 3Emotions as signals 3When you use something to cope 3Your worth is not conditional 2Facing it a step at a time 2Rebuilding trust 2What you are actually defending 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Question the thought 2Tolerate distress 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Keep the bond 1Get it out of your head 1Rituals of connection 1Face it gently 1Repair after rupture 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Panic and the body 1Shame 1Breaking the worry loop 1
Approach
ADHD skills 125Medical and treatment 71Core 64Body based 62Gottman 42CBT 28Mindfulness 25Emotionally focused 18DBT skills 7Trauma informed 2Narrative 1Grief 1
When · Any ordinary day
Any ordinary day 446Under stress 257After a row 69Coming and going 24In a change 11Something good 3When apart 1

If the word mindfulness makes you wince, leave the word out. Paying attention to your breath, or to the sounds in the room, is the whole of it.

A lot of people turn the practice down before trying it, because the label sounds like it belongs to somebody else's religion or somebody else's sort…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 29:69

One or two minutes every day will do more for you than forty minutes once a week. The long sit sounds serious and is mostly a good way to end up dreading it.

Set the price so low that skipping it would be odd: a minute, at a moment you already have. The aim is that it happens again tomorrow, not that it…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 33:41

Treat it like brushing your teeth rather than like meditating. Nobody is good at brushing their teeth, and nobody skips it because last night's went badly.

The hygiene framing takes the achievement out of it, and achievement is where perfectionists quit. Put it next to something already automatic: after…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 16:96

Tune to what your spouse is feeling under their words today, and name it gently.

It sounds like that scared you. Responsiveness is meeting the feeling, not just the fact.

A minuteKnowing your partnerEmotionally focusedQur’an 3:159

Be the first to lower your guard today, even a little, and say something true and soft.

Someone has to move first. Let it be you, with one honest, undefended sentence.

A minuteKnowing your partnerEmotionally focusedQur’an 20:44

Find the longing under your complaint, and voice the longing instead.

Under you are never home is I miss you, I want more of you. Say the wish, not the jab.

A minuteKnowing your partnerEmotionally focusedQur’an 25:74

Ask your spouse what is weighing on them this week, and remember the answer.

Not how was your day. What is heavy right now. Then carry a corner of it in your mind.

A minuteKnowing your partnerGottmanQur’an 9:71

Notice one way your spouse has changed lately, and let your picture of them catch up.

People keep becoming someone new. Ask about the new thing rather than assuming the old.

A minuteKnowing your partnerGottmanQur’an 13:28

Learn the one part of your spouse's day that drains them most, and lighten it if you can.

The commute, the boss, the bedtime hour. Know the pinch point, then ease it by a little.

A minuteKnowing your partnerGottmanQur’an 9:71

Keep in mind one small thing that matters to your spouse, and act on it unprompted.

The tea they like, the worry they mentioned, the date they dread. Remember, then show it.

A minuteKnowing your partnerGottmanQur’an 2:152

Ask a follow-up question instead of offering your own view.

Curiosity says you are still worth discovering; advice can quietly say the opposite.

A minuteKnowing your partnerCoreQur’an 30:21

Ask what makes them feel most cared for, and then believe the answer.

Our usual gestures are often for the person we imagine, not the one in front of us.

A minuteKnowing your partnerCoreQur’an 30:21

Reference something they told you last week, unprompted.

Remembering the small details of their life is quiet proof that they were truly heard.

A minuteKnowing your partnerCoreQur’an 4:19

Do not win in a way that crushes your partner's dream. Aim for a marriage where you support each other's dreams.

Being right is worthless if it flattens the person you love. Look for how both dreams can be honored.

A minuteKnowing your partnerGottmanQur’an 2:187

You can screen for a processing difficulty with no test at all. Just notice, in ordinary conversation, whether the child is answering what you actually said.

A child who drifts off topic, answers a slightly different question, or needs things said twice may not be avoiding you or daydreaming. The words may…

A minuteReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 20:28

Behaviour is usually the visible end of a skill that has not been built. What you are watching in a classroom is the shape of the difficulty rather than the shape of the child.

It is a single sentence you can say in a meeting, and it tends to move the conversation away from what to do about the behaviour towards what the…

A minuteReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 17:84

Reflect your partner's feeling back to them in simple, slow, soft words, using their own words where you can.

Empathic reflection, gently naming and mirroring back what your partner is feeling, tells them they are not alone in it. Keep it slow, simple, and…

A minuteListening and understandingEmotionally focusedQur’an 20:44

Once a day, take your partner's emotional temperature. Ask how are you doing, and mean it.

Not out of politeness, but because you truly want to know. Small check-ins build trust over time.

A minuteListening and understandingGottmanQur’an 2:83

When your partner talks, shift the focus off yourself. It is not about being interesting, it is about being interested.

Postpone your own agenda for a while. Tune into their world before you bring yours.

A minuteListening and understandingGottmanQur’an 25:63

Try to see the situation from your partner's side, not your own. Assume there is a good reason they feel as they do.

Their reality has its own validity. Start by looking for why it makes sense, not why it is wrong.

A minuteListening and understandingGottmanQur’an 24:12

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