Practices

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18 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Medication and how it works
Staying regulated in conflict 46Choosing your response 25Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 18Medication and how it works 18Bringing the future closer 17The moment before you snap 17Your nervous system 15Fondness and admiration 15Equanimity and perspective 14Affection and touch 14Knowing your partner 14What anger actually is 13Get started 13Repair after rupture 13Systems for daily life 13Your sense of time 12Cool the body first 12Growing empathy 12Treatment and medication 11Structure and routine 10Grounding and settling 9Gratitude 9Feelings and focus 8Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Moving your body 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Making it stick 6Exercise, food and other supports 6Remembering to do it 6Rituals of connection 6Shared spiritual life 6Touch and bodywork 6What you are actually defending 5Being seen and judged 5Emotions as signals 5Screens and attention 5Rebuilding trust 5Practising under provocation 4Food, caffeine and fuel 4Shame and stigma 4Treatment and medication 4Breathing 4Tolerate distress 4Self-compassion 3What ADHD actually is 3When you use something to cope 3Safety and grounding 3Question the thought 3What worry does 3The cost of avoiding 3Name what you feel 3Patience and trust 2When anger turns to harm 2Calm the body 2Facing it a step at a time 2Hold a boundary 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Let the wave come 2Meaning after harm 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Ride the urge 2Shame 2Validate yourself and others 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Breaking the worry loop 1Your window of tolerance 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Act on your values 1Panic and the body 1Listen to the body 1Keep the bond 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Feeling from the inside 1Face it gently 1Care for yourself in loss 1Ask and say no well 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1
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More of the medicine is not automatically better. What you are looking for is a level that sits inside the working range, and going past it usually brings side effects rather than sharper thinking.

It is a natural thought that if some helps a little, double would help twice as much. In practice people describe the higher dose as flat, or wired,…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 55:8

Do not compare your dose with anybody else's. Two milligrams of one medicine and a hundred milligrams of another can both be perfectly ordinary, because strength per milligram differs from molecule to molecule.

This comes up in waiting rooms and family group chats and it causes real alarm about being on a lot. The number on the box only means something…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

If a young driver in your house takes medication, the dose and the car keys belong together. Driving is the everyday task where one lost second costs the most.

The gap tends to open at weekends and in the holidays, when the dose gets skipped because there is no school and then someone drives anyway. Make it…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:68

If you open atomoxetine capsules to mix the contents into food, keep it away from your eyes and wash your hands afterwards. The powder stings badly.

The molecule is acidic and cannot be softened without falling apart, so the fix is in the handling rather than the chemistry. Take it with something…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:6

Stand up slowly. Getting off the floor after an hour of gaming, or out of bed in the morning, is where the dizziness tends to catch people.

A drop in blood pressure on standing is common enough with these medicines and it frightens people, because a near faint feels like something serious…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:67

If a question at the counter feels like judgement rather than care, you are allowed to ask which it is. Is this a medical question or a personal one?

Asked evenly it does not start a row, and it returns the conversation to where it belongs. Pharmacists have proper clinical questions to ask about…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:32

If swallowing the capsule is the sticking point, ask whether yours is the bead type that can be opened and tipped onto a spoonful of soft food. The little beads go down unchewed and the medicine still lasts as long as it should.

Inside these capsules sit lots of coated pellets, some with thin coats that dissolve early and some with thicker coats that dissolve later, which is…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:6

The skin patch comes with two things worth knowing before you start. Take it off several hours before bedtime or it keeps delivering and sleep goes, and around one person in six gets a rash bad enough to stop.

The upside is real control over the length of the day. Because the medicine stops arriving soon after the patch comes off, the removal time is yours…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:81

There is now a version taken in the evening that only switches on around nine hours later, so it is already working when you wake. The point of it is the morning, not the night.

Most families know the first hour of the day as the worst one, because the tablet taken at breakfast has not started yet and everyone still has to…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

With a bedtime dose, the clock is the dose. Give it too early and the medicine switches on in the small hours, which buys you a child awake at half past four and no appetite at breakfast.

The ordinary effects still apply: appetite tends to dip around the middle of the day and sleep can be harder to come by. What changes is that one…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 55:8

Notice which word somebody reaches for. Protection sounds like a shield against loss, while what the studies describe is closer to a little extra growth, and those are not the same promise.

The difference is small on the page and large in a consultation. A parent who hears protection may start treating the tablet as a wall they cannot…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:36

The same question has not been asked of the non-stimulants. They reach much of the same circuitry, so you can see why people expect a similar effect over years, but expecting is all it is.

This is a good place to notice the shape of your own reasoning. Going from these drugs touch the same regions to therefore they do the same thing…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 53:28

People expect to feel wired and often describe feeling settled instead. That surprise is common enough to be worth knowing about before you start.

What tends to quieten is the churn: the half started tasks, the jumping from one thing to another, the low hum of being behind. That can read as calm…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Most long acting stimulant capsules hold two sorts of beads, one that dissolves straight away and one coated to dissolve later. That is the whole reason a single morning capsule can do what used to need a lunchtime dose as well.

It matters because the midday dose was the one that got missed, and missing it was rarely carelessness. A dose that has to be remembered in the…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

The line about not cutting, crushing or chewing a long acting medicine is a safety instruction with a real mechanism behind it. Break the coating and the whole day's dose arrives in one go.

People sometimes crush a capsule because swallowing is genuinely hard, not because they are misusing it, so ask before assuming. There are usually…

A minuteMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:81

Long acting stimulants are the usual starting point for a plain reason: they cover the most hours and they remove the lunchtime dose, which is the dose ADHD is most likely to swallow whole.

Remembering a tablet in the middle of a busy day is itself an executive task, so asking for it is asking the person to do the thing they came for…

A minuteMedication and how it worksADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

The most useful question about a dose is whether the person can tell. A shrug and 'I think it sort of helps a bit' usually means it is not yet doing its job.

At a dose that suits them, most people can say when it comes on, what the middle of the day feels like, and when it leaves. Vagueness points…

A minuteMedication and how it worksADHD skillsQur’an 53:28

Half the useful health information arrives sideways. Someone says 'I am so tired' on the way into another subject, and that is an opening worth taking gently.

People rarely bring sleep or food to a session as a topic, because they do not file them as symptoms. So the tiredness, the skipped meals and the…

A minuteMedication and how it worksADHD skillsQur’an 21:83

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