Practices

Being able to disappear into something for six hours does not cancel the diagnosis out. Getting stuck on and getting stuck off are the same switch failing in two directions.

People often use their own absorption as evidence against themselves, or a family member uses it against them: if you can play that game all night,…

If you reach the bottom of a page and nothing has stayed, reading it again more slowly usually will not fix it. Change something about how you are reading instead.

Read a paragraph and then say it back in your own words before moving on, or write one line per section, or read with a pen underlining as you go.…

ADHD tends to run in families, and the differences in reported rates between countries say more about how a country counts than about its people.

It is common to find, part way through your own assessment, that you are recognising a parent, a sibling or a child. That is not a coincidence and it…

If things fell apart when your routine did, that is information rather than a character flaw. A great deal of what was holding you together was built into the day around you.

Fixed start times, someone in the next room, a journey that marked the edges of work: these do real work, and you find out how much only when they…

Before you decide who in front of you looks like ADHD, notice the picture you are already carrying. The loud boy gets sent for assessment and the quiet, drifting girl often does not.

The research on how race affects who gets diagnosed is genuinely mixed, and it is more honest to read the studies than to adopt a position from a…

When you meet a confident claim about ADHD, look it up before passing it on. A search of recent papers, limited to the last few years, takes a couple of minutes and often changes the picture.

Free scholarly search engines will show you abstracts without an institutional login. Two habits do most of the work: filter by date so you are…

ADHD does not usually vanish at eighteen. The visible fidgeting often settles while the inattention stays, and the restlessness moves inwards where nobody can see it.

A teenager who has stopped bouncing off the walls can look much improved at exactly the point their workload has quadrupled, which is a poor moment…

You will see wildly different figures for how many children still have ADHD as adults. The range mostly reflects what is being counted: symptoms on a childhood list, or whether life is actually being made harder.

Counted by childhood symptom lists, many people look as though they grew out of it. Counted by whether it still gets in the way, far more have not.…

With ADHD, self-management usually runs a few years behind the birthday. Expecting a child to handle what other children their age handle sets you both up to fail.

A rough working guide many clinicians use is to expect around two thirds of the chronological age for this kind of self-regulation, so an eighteen…

The parts of the brain that plan and hold back keep developing into the mid twenties, so the person struggling at nineteen is not the finished version. Real gains come with time, though they do not add up to becoming someone without ADHD.

Hold that both ways. It is a reason for patience, and for not writing anybody off at nineteen. It is also a reason to plan for ongoing management…

A child who is tall for their age gets treated as older, and with ADHD their self-management may be running years behind. Pitch what you expect to the skills in front of you rather than to the height.

This lands hardest at school, where a big ten year old who cannot sit still reads as defiant rather than young for his skills. It is worth saying…

Not knowing a child's family history is not evidence against ADHD. Where a child is adopted, a blank family history should keep the question open rather than close it.

Assessment leans a good deal on family history, and adoption often means that history is simply unavailable. An unknown gets read as a negative,…

Anything that gives a quick lift, a bet, a purchase, speed, a risk taken late at night, pulls harder when your brain is short of reward. The workable move is not more willpower, it is putting friction between you and the thing.

Friction is a delay you build while you are calm: the card left at home, the app deleted, a rule that anything over a set amount waits until…

A sharp sense of unfairness is common with ADHD, and it often ends in walking out rather than in raising the matter. The instinct is usually sound. It is the timing that costs you.

Try a rule of your own making: when something at work feels unjust, write down what happened the same day and do nothing else for twenty four hours.…

Many people who end up in trouble with the law have never had their ADHD recognised. Behaviour read as defiance can be the same difficulty with stopping and thinking ahead.

That is not a claim that ADHD explains crime, and most people with ADHD never go near a courtroom. It does mean that where impulsive trouble keeps…

The same mistake costs far more when you have no money behind you. Legal trouble is not handed out evenly, and that sits on top of the earning difficulties ADHD already brings.

This is worth naming when somebody is carrying shame about a record: what happened was shaped by what they could afford at the time and not only by…

Driving is one long attention task with a very high cost of failure, so it is worth deliberately giving yourself more margin than you think you need.

In practice: phone out of reach and silent, route set before you move off, nothing to eat at the wheel, and no long drives on short sleep. If a…

Cognitive testing done on a day without medication can come out well below what a person can actually do. If a score is going to decide a school placement, make sure the conditions on the day are recorded.

The parts of these tests that are timed, or that ask you to hold numbers in your head, are exactly the parts untreated ADHD drags down, and they pull…

ADHD does not come with extra intelligence, and it does not take any away either. What being bright does is buy you time, because you can work around it for years before anyone notices.

That is why so many capable people get diagnosed at university, or in a first job with real responsibility, at the point where the workarounds…

A lot of people with ADHD quietly believe they are not clever. Usually it comes from reading a page four times and taking nothing in, and concluding the obvious thing about themselves.

That belief does a great deal of damage. It keeps people out of courses and jobs they could do, and it makes them give up on any new strategy the…