Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Theme · Rest and pacing
Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Get started 74Moving your body 71Treatment and medication 71Grounding and settling 71Equanimity and perspective 68Feelings and focus 66Your sense of time 66Cool the body first 65Staying regulated in conflict 65What ADHD actually is 65Touch and bodywork 65Screens and attention 62Exercise, food and other supports 61The fear underneath anger 61Bringing the future closer 60Food, caffeine and fuel 59When everything feels flat 54Practising under provocation 46The cost of avoiding 44Growing empathy 36Structure and routine 36Shame and stigma 35Breathing 35Reading, numbers and learning differences 34What worry does 34Making it stick 33Treatment and medication 31Being seen and judged 30Emotions as signals 30Remembering to do it 27Tolerate distress 27Knowing your partner 25Feeling from the inside 25Breaking the worry loop 24When you use something to cope 24Answering bids 24What you are actually defending 24Facing it a step at a time 24Shame 19Repair after rupture 19Obsessions and compulsions 18Righteous anger and perfectionism 17Rebuilding trust 17Shared spiritual life 17Affection and touch 15When anger turns to harm 15Fondness and admiration 15Listening and understanding 13Rituals of connection 13Posture and how you carry yourself 13Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Use your strengths 10Gratitude 9Anger, alcohol and the body 8When you go numb 7Living with uncertainty 5Rest and pacing 5Panic and the body 5Meaning after harm 4Safety and grounding 4Letting it out safely 4Name what you feel 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Calm the body 3Act on your values 3Let the wave come 3Your worth is not conditional 3Working with anger 3Validate yourself and others 2Get it out of your head 2Face it gently 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Care for yourself in loss 2Listen to the body 2Ask and say no well 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Help someone grieving 2Find meaning 2
When

Say it, out loud if you can manage it: I am done for the day. A decision, rather than a slow guilty drift away from the desk.

The hours after a proper clocking off feel different from the same hours drifted into, even when nothing else about them changes. It does mean facing…

A minuteRest and pacingADHD skillsQur’an 73:20

When you are already behind, rest feels like the one thing you cannot afford. That feeling is usually what keeps you behind.

Running from one near disaster to the next burns exactly the abilities you need in order to dig out: planning, holding a thought long enough to use…

Five minutesRest and pacingADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

Half watching a programme while half answering emails is the worst of both. The work takes twice as long and the evening gives you nothing back.

Pick one and let it be the whole thing. If it is work, work, and you will usually finish earlier than you expected. If it is rest, shut the laptop,…

Five minutesRest and pacingADHD skillsQur’an 94:7

Rest is not the prize waiting at the end of the work. It is part of what makes the work possible, and it does not have to be earned first.

Self control runs down over a day the way a battery does, and the thing that fills it back up is properly stopping. What that looks like is yours to…

Twenty minutesRest and pacingADHD skillsQur’an 10:67

There are two jobs here, not one. Free up the time, and then be able to sit in it without feeling like a fraud.

Working more efficiently buys hours back, and that is the easier half. The harder half is the belief that rest is only for people who have finished…

LongerRest and pacingADHD skillsQur’an 9:91

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