Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Living with uncertainty Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 5 Me 5 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 3 Getting ready for something 1 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 4 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Living with uncertainty

Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 74 Moving your body 71 Treatment and medication 71 Grounding and settling 71 Equanimity and perspective 68 Feelings and focus 66 Your sense of time 66 Staying regulated in conflict 65 Touch and bodywork 65 What ADHD actually is 65 Cool the body first 65 Screens and attention 62 The fear underneath anger 61 Exercise, food and other supports 61 Bringing the future closer 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 When everything feels flat 54 Practising under provocation 46 The cost of avoiding 44 Structure and routine 36 Growing empathy 36 Shame and stigma 35 Breathing 35 Reading, numbers and learning differences 34 What worry does 34 Making it stick 33 Treatment and medication 31 Emotions as signals 30 Being seen and judged 30 Tolerate distress 27 Remembering to do it 27 Feeling from the inside 25 Knowing your partner 25 What you are actually defending 24 Answering bids 24 When you use something to cope 24 Facing it a step at a time 24 Breaking the worry loop 24 Repair after rupture 19 Shame 19 Obsessions and compulsions 18 Rebuilding trust 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 When anger turns to harm 15 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Listening and understanding 13 Rituals of connection 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 When you go numb 7 Living with uncertainty 5 Rest and pacing 5 Panic and the body 5 Safety and grounding 4 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Let the wave come 3 Calm the body 3 Act on your values 3 Listen to the body 2 Patience and trust 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Get it out of your head 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Ask and say no well 2 Work with your brain 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Ride the urge 2 Find meaning 2

When

Any ordinary day 3 In a change 2

Listen for the condition you have attached to acting: I will apply once I know I will get it, I will go once I know I will like it. If that condition could never actually be met, it is not caution, it is a door you have quietly locked.

From the inside it rarely feels like avoidance. It feels sensible, even responsible, because who would go to all that trouble without knowing. The…

Five minutesLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 31:34

A no is usually information about fit rather than a report on your worth. Some of them have to happen before you can tell which places are right for you.

This is a real reframe rather than a comforting one, because a rejection does carry usable information: about what they were after, about what you…

Five minutesLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 2:216

When a decision feels impossible, put a date on it rather than pressing for the commitment. We will try this and look at it again in three months turns a life sentence back into a choice.

Plenty of people hear any decision as permanent, so picking a course or a job or a city feels like sentencing themselves to it. A review date changes…

Five minutesLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 18:23

When something feels unbearable to risk, follow it downwards. If that did happen, what would it mean, and what would happen after that?

Keep asking gently, and stop when you reach something that is a statement about the person rather than about the situation, such as it would prove I…

Twenty minutesLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 18:78

An exam is a task with requirements. It is not a ruling on whether you are capable, however much it feels like one while you are sitting inside it.

Saying that once changes very little. The person this comes from took a long time to arrive at it, and that is worth knowing so you do not expect it…

LongerLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 57:23

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