Practices

A long stretch at home is never neutral time. It teaches two things at once: staying away stops the dread, and staying away is pleasant.

That double lesson is why a few months out is so much harder to undo than a few days. First comes relief, then the slow morning, the screen, the…

If escape is holding the pattern in place, the plan closes off the escape a step at a time. If what waits at home is holding it, the plan moves those good things to the other side of the effort.

Most stuck cases are stuck because only one half was addressed. A careful ladder of steps does very little while the afternoon at home is still the…

If a child is at home, run the day as though it were a school day. Same wake time, same breakfast, bag packed, work starting when lessons would have started.

Ten hours of sleep followed by a slow morning turns home into somewhere far nicer than school, and a body clock that drifts later makes the next…

Physically taking a refusing child should be rare, and only with a young child, two adults at home, two staff waiting at school, and a plan for keeping everybody safe.

It goes wrong easily. Someone gets hurt, a younger sibling watches it happen, and a child learns that the adults will use force, which is not a…