Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have

A minute 22 Five minutes 29 Twenty minutes 6 Longer 4

Who it is written for

A practitioner 61 Me 58 Someone I care about 48 My husband or wife 1

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 42 Struggling right now 14 Getting ready for something 5

On your own, or with someone

On my own 57 Both of us together 2 Involves someone else 2

Theme · The fear underneath anger

Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 74 Moving your body 71 Treatment and medication 71 Grounding and settling 71 Equanimity and perspective 68 Feelings and focus 66 Your sense of time 66 What ADHD actually is 65 Touch and bodywork 65 Cool the body first 65 Screens and attention 62 Exercise, food and other supports 61 The fear underneath anger 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Bringing the future closer 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 When everything feels flat 54 Practising under provocation 46 The cost of avoiding 44 Growing empathy 36 Structure and routine 36 Breathing 35 Shame and stigma 35 Reading, numbers and learning differences 34 What worry does 34 Making it stick 33 Treatment and medication 31 Emotions as signals 30 Being seen and judged 30 Remembering to do it 27 Tolerate distress 27 Feeling from the inside 25 Knowing your partner 25 Facing it a step at a time 24 What you are actually defending 24 When you use something to cope 24 Breaking the worry loop 24 Answering bids 24 Repair after rupture 19 Shame 19 Obsessions and compulsions 18 Righteous anger and perfectionism 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Fondness and admiration 15 When anger turns to harm 15 Affection and touch 15 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Rituals of connection 13 Listening and understanding 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 When you go numb 7 Panic and the body 5 Rest and pacing 5 Living with uncertainty 5 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Safety and grounding 4 Act on your values 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Calm the body 3 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Let the wave come 3 Help someone grieving 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Get it out of your head 2 Listen to the body 2 Ask and say no well 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Validate yourself and others 2

Approach

Core 54 Trauma informed 7

When

Any ordinary day 31 Under stress 18 After a row 12

There are two kinds of work on anger, and the order matters. Plain skills for the moment come first, and the larger questions about what your life is for can wait.

Going deep too early tends to backfire. If someone still cannot interrupt a flare, an honest conversation about meaning or forgiveness becomes one…

LongerThe fear underneath angerCoreQur’an 106:4

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