Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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66 practices

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How long you have

A minute 12 Five minutes 29 Twenty minutes 16 Longer 9

Who it is written for

A practitioner 64 Me 58 Someone I care about 27 My husband or wife 23

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 38 Struggling right now 20 Getting ready for something 8

On your own, or with someone

On my own 38 Both of us together 15 Involves someone else 13

Theme · Feelings and focus

Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 74 Moving your body 71 Treatment and medication 71 Grounding and settling 71 Equanimity and perspective 68 Your sense of time 66 Feelings and focus 66 Touch and bodywork 65 Cool the body first 65 What ADHD actually is 65 Screens and attention 62 The fear underneath anger 61 Exercise, food and other supports 61 Bringing the future closer 60 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 When everything feels flat 54 Practising under provocation 46 The cost of avoiding 44 Structure and routine 36 Growing empathy 36 Breathing 35 Shame and stigma 35 What worry does 34 Reading, numbers and learning differences 34 Making it stick 33 Treatment and medication 31 Emotions as signals 30 Being seen and judged 30 Tolerate distress 27 Remembering to do it 27 Knowing your partner 25 Feeling from the inside 25 Answering bids 24 Breaking the worry loop 24 When you use something to cope 24 What you are actually defending 24 Facing it a step at a time 24 Shame 19 Repair after rupture 19 Obsessions and compulsions 18 Righteous anger and perfectionism 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 When anger turns to harm 15 Rituals of connection 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Listening and understanding 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 When you go numb 7 Living with uncertainty 5 Rest and pacing 5 Panic and the body 5 Safety and grounding 4 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Calm the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Act on your values 3 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ask and say no well 2 Hold a boundary 2 Patience and trust 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Ride the urge 2 Listen to the body 2 Keep the bond 2 Work with your brain 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2

Approach

ADHD skills 45 CBT 21

When

Any ordinary day 32 Under stress 16 After a row 11 Coming and going 4 When apart 2 In a change 1

You can be connected to a thing as well as to a person. A cause, a project, something you are making. On the days people feel like too much, it is still there.

This works best when it asks something of you regularly: a rehearsal, a shift, a chapter a week. The obligation is the useful part, more than the…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 7:199

If you tell people that company is part of their treatment, it is worth noticing whether it is part of yours. Sitting in a training room with colleagues is the same medicine, taken by you.

There is a quiet loss of credibility in prescribing connection from a life that has none in it. It also flattens something that ought to be flat. You…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 25:63

There is a difference between being calm because your partner manages you and being able to steady yourself. The first works right up until the person is not there.

Plenty of adults with ADHD have got by on outside regulation without ever noticing it: a spouse who makes the difficult phone calls, a deadline that…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 16:127

If you are permanently behind, short of sleep and scrambling, that is not the backdrop to your short fuse. A good deal of the time it is the cause of it.

This is what makes the dull organisational work worth doing, because it buys you something you actually want. A morning that is not a panic leaves…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 94:1

Sleep, food and moving your body will not cure ADHD, and they do change how much of yourself you have available. Aim for good enough here rather than excellent.

The gain shows up in the margin more than in the symptoms. Rested, you have a bit of room before you snap. Short of sleep, you arrive at the evening…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 8:11

You cannot ask anyone to work harder on your difficulty than you are working on it yourself. That is the condition attached to every adjustment you ask for.

It is what keeps help from curdling into supervision. If your partner is holding the calendar, softening the tone and steering round your worst…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 16:127

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