Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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81 practices

Choosing your response Clear all

How long you have

A minute 36 Five minutes 35 Twenty minutes 4 Longer 6

Who it is written for

Me 81 A practitioner 69 Someone I care about 15 My husband or wife 7

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 44 Getting ready for something 19 Struggling right now 18

On your own, or with someone

On my own 73 Involves someone else 7 Both of us together 1

Theme · Choosing your response

Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 74 Moving your body 71 Treatment and medication 71 Grounding and settling 71 Equanimity and perspective 68 Your sense of time 66 Feelings and focus 66 What ADHD actually is 65 Touch and bodywork 65 Cool the body first 65 Screens and attention 62 Exercise, food and other supports 61 The fear underneath anger 61 Bringing the future closer 60 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 When everything feels flat 54 Practising under provocation 46 The cost of avoiding 44 Structure and routine 36 Growing empathy 36 Breathing 35 Shame and stigma 35 What worry does 34 Reading, numbers and learning differences 34 Making it stick 33 Treatment and medication 31 Emotions as signals 30 Being seen and judged 30 Tolerate distress 27 Remembering to do it 27 Knowing your partner 25 Feeling from the inside 25 Answering bids 24 Breaking the worry loop 24 When you use something to cope 24 What you are actually defending 24 Facing it a step at a time 24 Shame 19 Repair after rupture 19 Obsessions and compulsions 18 Righteous anger and perfectionism 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 When anger turns to harm 15 Rituals of connection 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Listening and understanding 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 When you go numb 7 Living with uncertainty 5 Rest and pacing 5 Panic and the body 5 Safety and grounding 4 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Calm the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Act on your values 3 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ask and say no well 2 Hold a boundary 2 Patience and trust 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Ride the urge 2 Listen to the body 2 Keep the bond 2 Work with your brain 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2

Approach

Core 47 Mindfulness 21 CBT 7 Gottman 6

When

Any ordinary day 45 Under stress 28 After a row 7 Coming and going 1

Changing how you react is two jobs, not one: loosening the old response and building the new one. Most people only do the second and then wonder why the old one keeps winning.

The new response is usually fine in calm conditions and then vanishes the moment your pulse is up, because the old one is still there, faster and far…

LongerChoosing your responseCoreQur’an 29:45

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