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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
One clear explanation is rarely enough. Say the important part again later in different words, and expect to say it again after that.
The thing you most want someone to have in a hot moment is the first thing that goes missing. Reactivity arriving ahead of thought is worth stating…
Most outbursts are a last try at getting something across. Underneath the noise there is usually a need that has gone unmet for a long time.
It rarely arrives as a message, though. It arrives as volume, and the other person hears the volume and misses the content entirely. Treating it as a…
People say true things when they are angry, even when they say them badly. Listen past the delivery for what is being defended.
Keeping face takes effort, and anger spends the effort elsewhere, so what comes out is closer to the bone than the careful version would have been.…
A lot of anger carries a hidden demand: you damaged how I feel about myself, so now you restore it. That leaves your steadiness in somebody else's hands.
It feels like the opposite of dependence, all force and self-sufficiency, which is why it goes unnoticed. Look at the shape of the complaint. If the…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Anger is not something to get round to next month. One bad half hour can cost a job, a marriage or a criminal record.
Most difficulties give you time. This one can hand you an outcome that cannot be undone, and it can do it before you have finished deciding whether…